o today I am going to cover the ancient art of the takeaway. For those that are not familiar… a takeaway is when you meet a girl who is obviously showing signs of attraction (IOIs: Indicators of interest.) and instead of giving her a lot of attention or making it obvious that you are interested – you back off a little. This way you cause her to feel a stronger level of attraction for you, because it’s human nature to want something that is not that easy to get.
I’ve listed below the details on how to master the takeaway – so take note if you don’t have this down already…
1) Best to use early on in the night.
Yes, the reason I say this is because most women in the club are still sober early on. So bouncing around to a few girls will give you an idea of who is showing the most interest. If a girl is showing interest when sober, then backing off and reapproaching a little later on in the night – when the target has a few drinks in her – may just light a fire.
Once you reapproach all you have to do is build some sexual tension through eye-contact (Google triangular gazing). Mastering the takeaway is what separates the men from the boys in my opinion. When you completely understand how to do this from practice, then you will see your success rate improve drastically. When I first got the hang of this I finally reached a turning point where I felt like I had more solid control of my game.
2) Walking away after pinnacle of interaction.
So it’s early on in the night and you see a girl that is looking at you constantly. Now is the perfect chance to go up and introduce yourself – so you do this. You exchange information about each other and she’s very receptive. She’s probably smiling as well at this point.
Eventually you get to the point where she is talking more than you. This is the perfect time to use the takeaway. What I do is just tell her I’ll be back later, but first I find out if she’s planning to stick around for awhile. If not, I’ll ask if she has Facebook or if she wants to meet up another time. If she says yes, then I’ll ask for her number and part ways.
Nevertheless if she does plan on staying around, I just tell her I’ll be back. Following this I’ll leave her plain of sight. At this point she doesn’t know if I left or if I am even still around. Now she’s most likely thinking about me – this interesting and mysterious guy – that she may never see again. That feeling is exactly the point of the takeaway and now she values me higher than most of the other guys that are going to approach her later on.
I try not to wait too long, maybe 45 minutes or so, then I’ll come back. Hopefully she is feeling the alcohol a little more. Usually they do, because it doesn’t take more than 1 or 2 drinks for most women to feel the effects of booze.
Once I’ve come back and see that she is clearly excited to see me, then I will smile and say something playful like, “Long time, no see.” I’ll talk with her a bit more and then suggest going out for a smoke or tell her to come with while I get a drink so I can isolate her from her friends. Once I see that she’s compliant with this, then I’ll start to escalate (Move in for a kiss, etc.).
3) Use sparingly.
Another piece to add to the equation is that you should not apply this technique to the same target more than once. In order to be effective one time is enough. If you do too often then you’ll just make the girl think you are not that interested or that you’re a douche. The idea is to create a sense of loss, then ultimately add clout to the initial level of attraction – not to make you seem like a jerk.
4) Make sure the target is giving IOIs before using.
A few examples of IOIs are her moving close to your vicinity, looking at you more than normal, smiling at you or just flat out coming up to you to talk. If you notice any of these things, then it is obviously safe to make these girls you targets.
5) Don’t be too harsh.
I’ve read some research over the years about how to be an effective leader in the workplace and heard that it is better not to be too nice but at the same time not be too mean as well. So this can also be applied to effectively attracting a mate.
There is a happy medium that women are more attracted to. Meaning that you must have a certain level of detachment that keeps the woman yearning for you. This basically makes us seem like a challenge – which humans in general are just more attracted to. Think about it… no one appreciates anything that comes easy.
So in short…
Just don’t be easy and you’ll be in the right state of awareness to master this skill. Women can sense desperation, so keep your options open – and most of all – don’t doubt yourself. Now that’s everything for today – enjoy your week and make sure you’re going out!
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“The Definitive Book of Seduction“.
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-PUA Redsky
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