Dating Tips: 3 Pillars of Attraction:
Today’s dating tips are aimed at all you guys dealing with approach anxiety. I just wanted to write this so you can start walking in the right direction in regard to pick-up.
In our day in age an average looking man can have an unlimited amount of HQ women in his life if he develops the following areas:
-Appearance:
Yea, a lot of Dating Coaches are telling you about how this isn’t a factor, but it is and it isn’t. It is going to have an impression on women, but it isn’t the impression many might think.
The way I’ve come to realize how women judge men can be explained the same way a person would shop for a used car. When shopping for a car, one will analyze the exterior and interior.
The interior of the engine needs to be in stable condition so that it won’t break down. Think of the engine as your confidence and finances. A woman looks for a man who isn’t easily mentally defeated and emotionally/ physically independent of the world around him.
A man who can give strong eye contact… A man that can hold his own in a conversation… A man who will stand his ground and does what he wants to do…
The exterior is analyzed by how well it’s been taken care of, how clean it is, how cool it looks, etc.
-Drive:
To increase your success one will need to first increase the amount of work they put in. I advise against online dating because with cold approach you will find more HQ women in a shorter amount of time.
A beautiful woman in a metropolitan area will get approached at least 7-10 times in 2 hours on a busy night out in the city, I know because I’ve seen it.
If she is single she may give her number out 4 out of 7 and 6 out of these 10 times.
However, at the end of the weekend night a lot of women will go home with someone or take someone home with them. The more women you connect with, then the more you raise your chances to be that guy. The more that you go out and succeed at this, then the better you will get at screening for suitable candidates.
-Assertiveness:
This is the last thing I am going to talk about and is the most important IMO. Being assertive to me, is knowing when to push, when to back off and when to push again later.
You won’t always be on point, but as long as you follow that concept then you will eventually find a non-creepy way to go about being assertive.
Women want a guy that is assertive but in a charming way.
An example would be:
Me: (I go in for a kiss when her face is close enough and get rejected) *I smile after*
Her: (She looks at me.)
Me: “I am a guy and I am naturally going to want to kiss a girl I’m attracted to.”
+ I back off for a few mins and start asking her about films she watches. A couple of minutes later I try again.
Me: “You know that you have some smeared make up on the side of your face by your eye.”
Her: “Really.”
Me: “Ya, close your eyes, I’ll wipe it for you.”
Her: (She closes eyes.)
Me: (I sneak a peck on her lips.)
+ Afterward I laugh about it and back off to give her space to absorb what just happened. Usually if she is smiling about it then she will let me make out with her the next time I go in for the kiss.
I feel that the kiss is a psychological barrier for a woman. If you can get it, regardless of how it’s done, then you can proceed further.
This is just one way I get the kiss. Obviously, if I see that she is getting close to me, frequently touching me with the big anime eyes, then I will just flat out go for the kiss. But for those of you that aren’t as bold then try the first example.
Based on the amount of investment she is giving you, one can determine whether a kiss is even an option. You aren’t going to get a positive response if you try to kiss a girl that is constantly looking away and not engaged in the conversation. Engaged meaning; asking you questions about yourself, laughing when you are trying to be funny, etc.
After the kiss then continue being assertive. Suggest going to a better place that you may know of. Give her little opportunities to go with you, see if she takes them.
You can also try grabbing her hand and going for a walk somewhere, be gentle of course; never forceful. When you find a solitude spot on the street then pull her in again to continue making out. See if she lets you grab her ass. After this you can go to the street to hail a taxi and see if she allows this. If she doesn’t then just continue walking to another bar so you can continue making her more comfortable through conversation and kissing.
I’ve noticed that women are not keen on making out in front of people, so suggesting taking a walk when you’ve found a receptive female can be a good move.
So feel things out for yourself. That’s all I got for today and I hope that some of you have a better idea on how attraction works, how to maintain and how to take advantage of it.
Thanks for reading and good luck!
-PUA Redsky
