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PUA Mindset and beliefs:

So today I am going to lay out my own mindset and beliefs, that I feel, allow me to be more successful with women than the average Joe. I’m going to isolate the qualities into groups so that it’s easier for one to comprehend.

Group 1 – Independence:

One should convey a low amount of neediness, therefore become highly emotionally independent.

“Even though I might develop feelings for women, at times, I don’t allow them to regulate how I live my life. Meaning I don’t offset what I have going on in my life because of her/ them.”

I do like to think of the future from time to time, and it does include me being in a somewhat monogamous kind of relationship. However, I believe it is important to keep things realistic.

Considering the rate of divorce and the massive amounts of adultery that I’ve witnessed, I don’t try to feel obligated; nor do I allow a woman that I’m with to feel obligated to me.

I do expect them not to openly hit on other men when I’m around; out of respect, which is natural. Yet, if I am going to spend time with a woman, then I want to see a woman that is at the same level as eager to see me.

Group 2 – Persistence:

Sometimes persistence can be attractive if you have enough patience. I’ve gotten girls that I’ve texted for months before. If you really like a girl then I don’t see any problem with hitting her up time and time again, until she finally decides to meet up with you.

In the meantime, you can shoot her a text and still occupy yourself with other women that are more interested. I think Paul Janka said it best when clarifying that he believes women go through different stages of arousal throughout a given month.

I’ve personally witnessed a large amount of horny and beautiful women sleeping with ugly losers. Seeing this right in front of me is what opened my eyes about what female hormones are capable of. So to think that I wouldn’t be able to catch a girl on a day that she is giving out these passes, just seems stupid to me.

Group 3 – Highlight your Strengths:

Some Dating Coaches may not agree with this, but the way I like to game is a little bit different. I don’t see a problem with being proud of who you are and what you may have accomplished, as long as it’s not being thrown in everyone’s face in an overcompensating way.

If you worked hard on something and it just happens to come up in conversation, then don’t be afraid to throw it out briefly. Like the other day some girl was talking about how she just started doing kickboxing and asked me if I did anything like that.

I threw out a couple of interesting facts about myself but not excessively. I gave her a little bit of timber to ignite the flame. Women are very intuitive; as a result she may have sensed my passion when bringing the subject up and it may have triggered more curiosity/ interest about me.

I didn’t go overboard and say I was the best at it… Or that I used to kick everyone’s ass… etc… Even if you did…

Anyway, I don’t have a lot of time, so I think that is enough. I don’t want to overload anyone on this topic.

But now you have some new concepts for developing some solid Inner-game.

Anyway, thanks for reading and best of luck to everyone still putting in the work!

-PUA Redsky

Dating Tips: 3 Pillars of Attraction:

Today’s dating tips are aimed at all you guys dealing with approach anxiety. I just wanted to write this so you can start walking in the right direction in regard to pick-up.

In our day in age an average looking man can have an unlimited amount of HQ women in his life if he develops the following areas:

-Appearance:

Yea, a lot of Dating Coaches are telling you about how this isn’t a factor, but it is and it isn’t. It is going to have an impression on women, but it isn’t the impression many might think.

The way I’ve come to realize how women judge men can be explained the same way a person would shop for a used car. When shopping for a car, one will analyze the exterior and interior.

The interior of the engine needs to be in stable condition so that it won’t break down. Think of the engine as your confidence and finances. A woman looks for a man who isn’t easily mentally defeated and emotionally/ physically independent of the world around him.

A man who can give strong eye contact… A man that can hold his own in a conversation… A man who will stand his ground and does what he wants to do…

The exterior is analyzed by how well it’s been taken care of, how clean it is, how cool it looks, etc.

-Drive:

To increase your success one will need to first increase the amount of work they put in. I advise against online dating because with cold approach you will find more HQ women in a shorter amount of time.

A beautiful woman in a metropolitan area will get approached at least 7-10 times in 2 hours on a busy night out in the city, I know because I’ve seen it.

If she is single she may give her number out 4 out of 7 and 6 out of these 10 times.

However, at the end of the weekend night a lot of women will go home with someone or take someone home with them. The more women you connect with, then the more you raise your chances to be that guy. The more that you go out and succeed at this, then the better you will get at screening for suitable candidates.

-Assertiveness:

This is the last thing I am going to talk about and is the most important IMO. Being assertive to me, is knowing when to push, when to back off and when to push again later.

You won’t always be on point, but as long as you follow that concept then you will eventually find a non-creepy way to go about being assertive.

Women want a guy that is assertive but in a charming way.

An example would be:

Me: (I go in for a kiss when her face is close enough and get rejected) *I smile after*
Her: (She looks at me.)
Me: “I am a guy and I am naturally going to want to kiss a girl I’m attracted to.”

+ I back off for a few mins and start asking her about films she watches. A couple of minutes later I try again.

Me: “You know that you have some smeared make up on the side of your face by your eye.”
Her: “Really.”
Me: “Ya, close your eyes, I’ll wipe it for you.”
Her: (She closes eyes.)
Me: (I sneak a peck on her lips.)

+ Afterward I laugh about it and back off to give her space to absorb what just happened. Usually if she is smiling about it then she will let me make out with her the next time I go in for the kiss.

I feel that the kiss is a psychological barrier for a woman. If you can get it, regardless of how it’s done, then you can proceed further.

This is just one way I get the kiss. Obviously, if I see that she is getting close to me, frequently touching me with the big anime eyes, then I will just flat out go for the kiss. But for those of you that aren’t as bold then try the first example.

Based on the amount of investment she is giving you, one can determine whether a kiss is even an option. You aren’t going to get a positive response if you try to kiss a girl that is constantly looking away and not engaged in the conversation. Engaged meaning; asking you questions about yourself, laughing when you are trying to be funny, etc.

After the kiss then continue being assertive. Suggest going to a better place that you may know of. Give her little opportunities to go with you, see if she takes them.

You can also try grabbing her hand and going for a walk somewhere, be gentle of course; never forceful. When you find a solitude spot on the street then pull her in again to continue making out. See if she lets you grab her ass. After this you can go to the street to hail a taxi and see if she allows this. If she doesn’t then just continue walking to another bar so you can continue making her more comfortable through conversation and kissing.

I’ve noticed that women are not keen on making out in front of people, so suggesting taking a walk when you’ve found a receptive female can be a good move.

So feel things out for yourself. That’s all I got for today and I hope that some of you have a better idea on how attraction works, how to maintain and how to take advantage of it.

Thanks for reading and good luck!

-PUA Redsky