ello everyone,
Today I thought I’d cover something commonly referred to as micro-expressions.
A micro-expression is a series of facial expressions that humans make when preocuppied with certain emotions. The great thing about micro-expressions is that they are very hard to fake and can help a person figure out what others think of them; that is if you know what to look for.
According to many studies (One you can read about is HERE), there are 7 micro-expressions to look out for. These are: Disgust, anger, fear, sadness, happiness, surprised, and hatred. Something interesting about them is that they take effect rather quickly; approximately around 1/25th of a second.
So you might now be curious to know exactly how to read a micro-expression and find out how you can use it to know if your girlfriend is cheating, which is what I will get into soon enough, but first I want you to think about what you are feeling now.
Are you happy, sad, stressed out or maybe you’re worried?
Whatever emotion that you are feeling, I suggest looking into a mirror and concentrating on that emotion for a brief moment. Now look at the expressions that your face makes when focusing on that particular emotion.
The first micro-expression I will be describing is…
There are 5 things to pay attention to when you feel surprised. Your eyebrows will become raised and slightly curve, the skin below the brow gets stretched, You get wrinkles on your forehead (Horizontally), your eyes become wide open (Exposing the white in your eyes more noticeably) and your jaw drops a bit; opening your mouth slightly.
These are involuntarily executed and we all do the same thing when we experience a feeling of surprise. It’s as though the data from our parents was upoaded into our DNA from the moment our mother’s eggs were incubated; much like a computer inherits information from a USB drive.
Again we have 5 more things to pay attention to for this emotion. When fear takes place our eyebrows raise and move closer together, the wrinkles become apparent in the center of our forehead, the upper eyelids rise and the lower eyelids tighten, the white in our eyes becomes only exposed at the top of the retna and again the mouth opens; but the lips become slightly tensed.
Someone may make these expressions when they are worried about something (Possibly even something they are hiding, when confronted about what they might be hiding). It could be money, a test, an abusive partner; a plethora of affairs. Fear is a very easy expression to spot and probably the last one that you want to trigger in a female early on. So if you see these signs, then you obviously need to change something in your current game-plan.
Now this I think many newbies and even experienced PUA’s are familiar with. This is definitely something you will come into contact with in the city where I live; which in New York City.
When your target is experiencing this emotion she will give off signals that will make it obvious that she isn’t happy with you. First off, her upper eyelids are raised, lower lip tend to also be raised, nose is most likely wrinkled, cheeks rise and there might be some lines that become more prominent below her lower eyelids as well.
When this happens you better take cover, because you are probably on your way to experiencing some bitchiness. Which is right on track for the next emotion I am going to describe…
When your target is angry her eyebrows will become lowered and closer together, lines pointing downward will appear in-between the eyebrows, the lower eyelids become tense, her eyes will have a hard and cold stare (Possibly even bulged), her lips will become pressed tightly together, nostrils flared and the jaw/chin will stick out slightly or become more prominent.
I have experienced this quite a bit with some of my ex’s and have to say that this is ‘no-man’s land’. So if you are seeing these expressions, then I advise you to stop with whatever it is that is antagonizing her.
This one you need to be careful with because it is sometimes possible to get fooled by someone that is pretending to be happy, when actually they are not.
When someone is happy their lips are obviously pulled back in somewhat of a smile, teeth may or may not be exposed, there will be a prominent wrinkle that runs from the side of the nose to the outer lips, cheek-bones are raised, the lower eyelids become tense and the last feature is crow’s feet on the outer portion of their eyes.
The way that you can tell someone is really happy is that their over-all face is tighter and if they aren’t happy(Or faking), then the sides of the face will appear to be looser.
Usually if this is an issue, then I will stay far away from this female. This will just lead to her need for constant reassurance and I personally don’t have the time to baby-sit anyone’s emotions. So it’s better to identify this as soon as possible; if you want to save yourself a headache.
A woman that is sad will have eyebrows that point more upward toward the center of the forehead, the space between the upper eyelids and eyebrows is somewhat triangular in shape, the mouth is in the shape of an upside down smile, the jaw raises more vertically and the lips become puffy as though the person is about to cry.
Hatred is probably the easiest to spot when you know what to look for and it’s not very complicated at all. When this emotion takes place the person involuntarily flexes the muscles on the side of their mouth; which causes one side of their mouth to rise more than the other. I see this a lot when I tell other dating coaches I don’t want to work with them.
So now I suggest really internalizing this information, because it will make all the difference whenever you want to know what someone really thinks about you. You can also find out what emotion the topic of conversation is triggering in your date.
And finally, you can tell your girlfriend is cheating by seeing if she has a surprised response when you accuse her of the act. Chances are her micro-expression will indicate an element of surprise if she is being loyal and if she is not, then she may appear more worried; as if she has something that she’s hiding.
There you go… You now have a new skill that you can now develop on your own and have a better understanding of whether you are really connecting with people the way that you truly intend to.
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