realized a few things lately that I think may help some of you reading this. Most of the reasons many guys screw up with their targets usually comes down to a few things. So I decided to make a list of what I consider these few things to be and they are…
1) Lack of connection.
More or less, this is one of the number one reasons a girl won’t continue seeing or talking to you. There are a few ways to build a connection with a woman. I’ll list a few below…
– Finding commonalities.
A few little things like going to the same school, having parents from the same country, growing up in the same town can all have a big impact on whether a woman wants to keep seeing you. So try to find out as much as you can about her to address any commonalities you might have.
– Similar values.
Whether you are religious, not religious, into the occult or whatever – if you find a girl that has similar beliefs, then you may just hit it off. Not just because you have things in common, but because you share similar paradigms or interpretations of the world. So you probably won’t disagree on as many things; which is key for maintaining a stable relationship.
– Similar up-bringings.
Something as simple as coming from a large family or being an only child is also a pretty big deal. You’ll both understand each other a lot more from a psychological perspective. You may even have experienced similar struggles. These all go hand-in-hand for ultimately building a connection or having good chemistry.
These are just a few, but some of the strongest I think. So focus on them and you should be good to go.
2) Confidence.
Confidence can’t be faked… you need to conquer your doubt and not let it get the best of you. If a woman is showing up, then she is attracted to you. It’s the battle in your own mind that will turn her off. Once she sees that you are losing to that battle, then you will lose her as well. So win the battle my friends.
3) Smell.
I’ve mentioned this many times, smell can really turn a girl off. Usually the problem isn’t too much cologne or deodorant – it’s usually lack there of. I would invest in something like ‘Drakkar Noir’ or even ‘Brut’; if you’re cheap like me. There is no shame in using after-shave – as long as it smells good. Of course never forget the under-arms as well. I usually use ‘Dove for men’. It’s long-lasting and always does the trick.
4) Lack of conversation skills.
Even if you are ridiculously good looking you still need to have some degree of charm. You need to know what to talk about or what to avoid talking about. You also need to be a fun person to be around. A positive out-look on life can go a long way for that matter.
To add…
I hope this wasn’t a brainful, I would say that the most important thing to focus on is establishing a connection. I mentioned everything needed to start working on this, but also being a good listener can help a lot also. So the next you are out just try listening and allowing her to be the first one that opens up to you. Be genuinely interested and relate to what she is saying. To women, a man that is genuinely interested in what she is saying is as rare as a mouthful of diamonds.
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“Street Game: Day Game Tactics“.
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-PUA Redsky
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