o I am pretty big on not making enemies and if I meet someone that I see a potential enemy, then I will sever ties pretty quickly. So for all of you that are not as experienced with people – I thought I’d put this together to help you all, not just choose better girls, but also better friends in general.
The following principles in regard to this are…
1) Come to terms with the fact that most people are out for themselves.
Yes, this is an ideology that is somewhat comforting – especially in a ‘dog eat dog city’ such as New York; where I live. In stead of getting your feelings hurt, then you can just come to terms with this somewhat Machiavellian principle that I’ve come to appreciate.
Although, not everyone is like this, the majority of the world are out for themselves; maybe not consciously, but subconsciously. So when you can alter your paragdigm to align with this ideology, then you are much more less likely to put yourself in risky situations that may not turn out in your favor.
2) Never give more than what someone is willing to give you.
This can be applied to who you choose as a wing-man and to the women you choose to form relationships with. Otherwise you will be spending your time and money on other people, that most likely, view you as lower than them.
I personally am into being respected and not being taken advantage of. And yes there may be some people that have a personal masochistic kink – such as the opposite of this principle – yet I know many do not. So if you are like me and don’t like being taken advantage of, then pick the people that you spend your time with wisely.
3) Offer value is exchange for value.
Another interesting way to view this is from the perspective of a “buyer versus a seller”. A seller is coming from a perception where they are trying to convince the person that they are worth their time. A seller’s view is seen as lower value than the buyer’s.
So in short, be the buyer and in order to do so, then you need to internalize that you have something of high value to offer. When you can demonstrate this effectively, or have a high sense of self-worth (confidence), the right people will stay and the wrong people will quickly stay away; because they see that they can’t use you.
4) Don’t talk too much.
Another Machiavellian principle… never reveal too much about yourself. Allow people to gradually get to know you over time. Doing this will create a more profound bond and people will respect you more.
You’ll also be able to distinguish who you want to keep around. The more time you are around a person, then to more likely someone will reveal their true self; so give everyone a grace period of about 1 1/2 – 2 months. You’ll learn their true intentions and true character. Whether they actually are quality people that are capable of creating a symbiosis that you both can benefit from; these are the best relationships. The more relationships that you can create like this, then you will be more likely to achieve a higher level of success in life.
Furthermore…
Relationships should be of great importance in one’s life. Overly selfish people that think they don’t need people often tend to be dissatisfied wth life and unhappy. Yes, people can cause a lot of pain, but that is only when you surround yourself with the wrong people.
The right people are the only real recipe for happiness and that is me speaking from experience. We all have an innate need for acceptance. Do not be ashamed for wanting to be accepted, just get better at finding the right people to accept you. So that is all I have to say for today, hope I was able to help some of you and have a great week!
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“Street Game: Day Game Tactics“.
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-PUA Redsky
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