re you talented with words? Do you know what makes a person that way?
Having conversation skills is literally one of the most valuable skills one can develop; whether it be for dating, business or just getting people to believe in you in general. One of the keys to being a successful business owner is knowing how to network; if you can do this effectively, then you are almost guaranteed to reach success. For dating, it makes a substantial difference and if applied right will allow you to fill your life with tons of beautiful vixens.
Since in today’s world knowing how to talk is a given; I thought I would cover this specifically for those with questions about this particular topic.
There is much to learn on this topic, regardless, experience will teach you more than any one person can preach. Experimentation is key and I believe you should see every interaction, with someone new, as an opportunity for experimentation. Try to figure out what gets people to feel as though they can tell you anything, the goal is to find out what makes people, not just open up, but want to be around you. The idea is to get to a point where you are having long, drawn out conversations that seem as though they could go on forever.
The great thing about being an exceptional conversationalist is that everything is pretty straight-forward. Just follow the guidelines below and watch yourself begin to get the hang of it:
Who is this in front of me?
What are they thinking?
What do they like to do in their spare time?
What is their purpose in life?
These are many of the things that come to mind when I first meet someone. It’s always intriguing to me when I find someone unique. I guess I’ve developed a genuine interest in people over the years. I personally think that anyone can develop this interest, especially once you’ve realized how much of an impact you can have on someone’s life and just from words. Honestly, what is the purpose talking to someone, if you aren’t interested in who they are anyway? Which is exactly why you should embrace your opportunities to converse with everyone that fascinates you. For me, basically 100% of the time, that would involve beautiful women.
Keep the discussion on things that are positive and up-beat. This can be something like what you have going on in your life, whether you are about to start doing a new activity or have a vacation planned; make sure to stay away from things like problems you have with people or talking about things you don’t like. For example… instead of talking about how your boss is a self-centered prick, talk about a good movie you just saw. You can talk about things you aren’t fond of, here and there, but keep it brief and move on to something else quickly and don’t dwell on it.
This pretty much comes down to the ‘golden rule’; treat others the way you wish to be treated. Another thing to keep in mind is that if you are not a good friend of someone, then don’t ask personal things about them. This means no asking them how much money they make or what their parents do, etc, etc. If someone didn’t go to college or isn’t a Christian, don’t judge them for it. Don’t look down on them or try to tell them that they should be like you. Judging someone is a perfect way to get on a person’s bad side. We are all entitled to live our lives the way we want to, as long as we aren’t hurting anybody.
When you talk you should be voicing your opinion about something in a light manner and not shooting down those you do not agree with. You are having a friendly conversation and therefore, you must be willing to accept other’s opinions; even if they conflict with your own. The point of a conversation is not meant to always be on the same page as everyone; think of conversation as a form of venting. The reality is if everyone is forced to come to an agreement then no one will enjoy talking with you. People like to be able to voice their opinions freely and be listened to; if they feel as though you aren’t listening, then they themselves won’t want to engage in any further conversation. Learn to just let things go if you can’t come to an agreement on a subject, there is no need to become offended or try to change someone else’s opinion on a matter.
Your best asset is you… take advantage of who you are and don’t be ashamed of it. Conversation is the most boring when talking with someone who cares too much what people think of them. Prepare yourself to say what you think and reveal who you are. There is no reason you should not take pride in your own thoughts and opinions; after all, they are what shaped who you have become and who you’ll be 5 years from now.
When talking about someone that is not there, then make sure you don’t trash them. Praise everyone where praise is earned. If someone is talented at something, make sure you take notice of it. A compliment is always welcome, but in moderation.
Educate yourself on why someone may think differently than you and look for commonalities to help form some kind of bond. We are all different in many aspects, nevertheless, we also have many things in common. Think of differences as originality. If opinions contrast, don’t let your personal emotions escalate. Like I said before, the best ways to deter contrasting beliefs is to continue to try to find things in common. Embrace every commonality you find and use it to keep the conversation flowing.
One of the easiest ways to break the ice is obviously questions, but to make them count, you must know what to ask about. Questions will set a foundation for what you are going to end up talking about. If you want to really connect with someone then you need to learn how to ask meaningful questions. A good set of questions might be…
“What are your passions?”
“What was your New Year’s Resolution?”
“Why did you move here?” (If not from the city)
“What were you doing earlier?”
“What are your plans for the day/night?”
At times, people may not be as open to some of the above questions; when that happens, then just stick to formalities or talk about yourself (Without boasting). When you notice the person taking interest in what you’re talking about, then you can start asking the more profound questions; like what is listed above.
So I hope I was able to bring some useful info to everyone reading this. Make sure to keep these things in mind the next time you are around some people that you may be wanting to chat up. Watch the connections unfold and a new chapter of your journey to becoming a great conversationalist will begin to emerge.
To finish, here is another great read for everyone; some helpful info here. This book is called…
“Take Me To Truth” by Nouk Sanchez
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Nice read!!