What is this?
I know a lot of us may have heard this term and are not quite sure exactly what it is. This is something that is commonly used, not just in pick-up, but in other important areas of our lives.
For many, as we embark on different journeys and overcome different obstacles in life, we may feel a bit more comfortable in our own shoes. We develop a sense of purpose and after overcoming obstacle after obstacle we start to become more strong-willed. We will also realize what we truly value in life.
In time a man who has seen a lot will get a better sense of what they are capable of; or what kind of impact they have on the world. A person that has experienced a lot in life will typically tend to have a strong frame. In other words, he will not feel easily intimidated by beautiful women if he has had a good amount of experience with other women just as attractive from other times before.
How would one describe a frame?
Well, imagine that you are walking around everyday with a frame floating next to you. In every interaction that you have with a person, your frames are going to collide. When they collide, the stronger frame is going to be the remaining frame that has control.
In sales, the salesman is always supposed to maintain control of the frame or hold their frame. In doing this he is better able to push his ideas on to his client. Whether it be convincing them why they should get his product, why his product is going to be a good choice or how the product is going to make their life better; one of the concepts used for winning them over and “getting that sale” is mainly based around a little thing called ‘frame control’.
A meeting with a group of businessmen comes together to make decisions on how they should continue running their organization. In the process ideas are thrown out and against each other. Some of these ideas agree and other ideas clash, but in the end, the remaining ideas are created by those that maintain the strongest frame. Those that are not willing to submit to the other’s ideas will control the frame.
It does not matter whether these people chose to submit because the ideas were more intelligent, logical, ethical, beneficial, etc. The truth is that you can shape words into explanations that will make almost anything seem logical, ethical or beneficial; but it does not necessarily mean they are… What it means is that some of these men were not willing to continue arguing; therefore they allowed their frames to be absorbed by the strongest frame.
When you come in contact with a member of the opposite sex, you do not falter. Instead, make sure to look them straight in their eyes. They may try to tease you or maybe even push your buttons to see if you will get angry.
How do we deal with this?
Do we get mad?
Do we ask them to stop?
Do we laugh and make a joke?
The answer to all of these questions is that you do what “YOU” want to do. You don’t question it or allow yourself to become mentally defeated. You hold your frame and if you are convincing enough with your inner-game or inner-confidence, then she will give in.
Now I hope some of you all have a better understanding on what exactly frame control is and how it works.
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-PUA Redsky
Greetings! Very helpful advice in this particular post!
It’s the little changes that produce the greatest changes.
Many thanks for sharing!