PUA Tips: How to avoid being “too nice”.

The importance of not being too nice:

So I’m back!

And with a new thing or two to share with anyone that’s interested.

Today I wanted to get into how I think it is important to not do too much for women until, uh… They sleep with you. I feel like it is “too easy” to get put into the nice guy frame, if you aren’t pretty much a cold hearted prick; at least a little bit of the time.

I feel that when I do this, I am able to elevate my value and behave more like a man who has options or an “Alpha”. And the truth is that we do have options, even a prick like me.

If you live in a city of nearly 9 mill with 53% women and 47% men; while in Manhattan(Where I live) there is a ratio of 2 single women to 1 single man. Then you can afford to be a little more choosy than if you lived in a smaller town.

If you were to be in a smaller town, I personally believe that one can convey an abundance state of mind with one’s behavior; which in return will make a man far more compelling than the surrounding competition.

A good way to emulate this trait is by not having expectations and not allowing yourself to get overly-invested in the interaction. An example would be trying to avoid paying on the date or if she is offended by this, then agreeing to take turns buying rounds. I remember Paul Janka talking about how he would even go as far to make women pay him back.

I found Paul Janka’s response quite interesting, because I have him friended on Facebook and that guy is with a lovely lady that most of ‘those without game’ would probably consider out of his league. So in my opinion, I would see his success as evidence that withdrawing investment works.

The way I view the interaction, when out with a girl, is as though I had nothing better to do and didn’t feel like staying home. As long as she doesn’t annoy me too much, then I will keep it going and if she does something to test me then I won’t give her the response she is looking for; if anything I will do something similar to test her or to challenge her.

In my personal experience I see that when women are given the opportunity, they will most likely take advantage of the situation. It’s not that they are doing it on purpose, most women just have a false sense of entitlement.

I remember this girl getting kicked out of a bar, that I guy I know owns. I guess he was watching her in the camera and she would go up to a bunch of dudes and just spend her night leading men on and getting free drinks. Seeing this really opened my eyes to how some women can be.

So that is why it is important to be a little bit of a douche my friends. By being this way you are weeding out the trash and getting the women that actually value you. This will not only get you more sex and faster, but it will leave you less stressed out with women in general.

The way I see it; there are ‘No-Win’ girls and there are ‘Win’ girls. A good PUA is skilled at screening for them. Over time you will get better and better at finding the ideal target and eventually you’ll have so many women in your life, that you can just bring them around to places where the no-win women are. Doing this will convert the no-win girls into a win.

There are a few bars that I frequent here and there. In the process I’ve brought a significant amount of beautiful women to these places. I began to notice that the female bartenders and waitresses would begin to flirt with me when I would show up alone. At that point I wasn’t super keen on pre-selection and social-proof. But after a cute waitress asked me to hang out with her after she got off, which led to getting laid, then I realized that it wasn’t BS.

Initially this girl at this bar thought of me as just another ‘average Joe’ with no value. Yet when she sees me bring in beautiful women, time after time, then I become interesting.

Yes, this is how women think… They are just as shallow as us and some even more.

Now getting back to my point, if you are going to get anywhere with women, I suggest setting some boundaries and getting used to setting them. Get them abiding by your rules, then once they are used to it, they become comfortable with it. Not only this, they will become more appreciative.

It is human nature to have a high appreciation for what one has to work for.

So that’s all I got to share today and thanks for reading.

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-PUA Redsky