ow a few of these examples might be common sense for a lot of us; but I see plenty of guys that still somehow get tunnel-vision, even when the evidence is usually staring them right in the face. And just because a girl may exhibit some of these red-flags does not mean she is a bad person either. They are usually just not at a point in their life where they have the need to settle down.
The responsible and adult thing to do, for these varieties of situations, is not to expect too much. You can still enjoy the fun and have an FWB sort of thing, but don’t expect her to be willing to go out of her way to suit your needs.
Sometimes girls might think that they need a relationship, nevertheless their actions will inform you otherwise. It doesn’t mean that it is a bad idea to get into the relationship, for kicks. But I would do so with a grain of salt. You can still have a very healthy and substantial bond with someone you aren’t completely committed to; which can lead to some really nice perks(Invites to events, three-somes, meeting new people, gifts, etc.)
So to emphasize, these red-flags are…
A lot of people might not agree with this, but in my opinion, I’ve noticed significant patterns that point to this conclusion being true. Most of the time, women that aren’t turned on to your beliefs or don’t really value your perspective aren’t that into you.
This is an adult decision and whether she desires to accept it or not, she will simply just complicate your life if you choose to take her more seriously. You will run into arguments and feel unappreciated; so she won’t be capable of developing a healthy level of respect for you. And I believe that a woman really should have a high amount of respect for their partner when forming a proper, meaningful and long-lasting relationship.
Yes it is fairly obvious, yet I am aware of so many guys that are flat-out living in denial when they see this. If you focus on women’s nonverbals enough, then it’s really not that difficult to get a good idea for what they are really looking for.
Women tend to base their decisions more on how they feel together with someone. Chances are that if you catch her taking glimpses of other guys too much, then the chemistry isn’t strong enough. In her mind, you might be lacking in some department that’s unsatisfactory to her.
Nevertheless, don’t feel discouraged, feelings can still develop after awhile. A lot of beautiful women that live in small towns end up with guys they weren’t even that attracted to due to loneliness.
I’ve seen this happen and over time that woman gets so used to being with that guy that she stays with him. But like I said before, in the beginning take the concept of monogamy with a grain of salt; because if you have high hopes too quickly, then you will often become disappointed.
Yet another given… and still I see this a good deal when I’m out. Many guys don’t realize this, but if you need to set verbal boundaries with a woman so that she doesn’t behave in a certain way around other men, then you shouldn’t be with that girl to begin with.
When you’ve met the right woman, then she won’t do any of these things. I know simply because I’ve met several already. There is a natural, invisible chemistry that brings the two of you together and she won’t be focus on anyone but you.
She may glance at an attractive guy walking in, which is human nature, but that’s it… she won’t consistently stare and definitely will not be willing to speak to him. If he talks to her, then she will look at you for your cue to tell him, “We’re fine.”
So to review…
Now here are several things to check for so you don’t get your hearts shattered. One of the particular keys to being a responsible, mature adult is having the power to identify a woman who’s an appropriate girlfriend.
One of the biggest battles of ‘Pick-up artistry’ is getting attached to girls you like. Many of us get a hot girl and hope that she is the right one who isn’t eventually going to burn us in the long run or waste our time. As long as you focus on these red-flags, then you’ll make smarter decisions based on who to get seriously involved with.
Now since we’re on the topic of relationships…
I thought I’d include a book that has some good points on how to develop a more meaningful relationship with your special someone when you have finally found her; or if you’ve found her already.
Allow me to present to you…
“Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work” by Matthew McKay Ph.D., Patrick Fanning and Kim Paleg Ph.D.
This here is a helpful piece that will show you how to think and get your mind in the right place for a stronger connection and an ideal bond with your ‘little-lady’.
Just click on the icon below to start reading “Couple Skills: Making Your Relationship Work” now.
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Awesome post redsky!