Neediness…
The AF-chump’s biggest fault and something we all grapple with early on in this Pick-up Artist voyage. I doubt even essentially the most alpha of alphas has ever gone a day without feeling this.
This is a feeling that I deal with every time I meet women that I’m really getting along with well. Luckily, because of many books, trial and error, I can now keep my behavior at bay.
Today I want to cover how and keep your date via perceiving you as needy.
And I accomplish this all by paying attention to 2 specific points… Which are:
#1-I get her talking more than me:
I love to ask them open-ended questions that produce positive and lively banter. I feel that making a woman talk is a type of investment. When you have her talking more than you, then you basically hold the most control over the conversation and she will make mistakes when talking; which you can tease her about.
For example in the event that she miss pronounces a word, then you can say something such as, “Easy there turbo.” Such things as that will convey confidence and also make the girl laugh if delivered properly.
#2-Be the first to dismiss:
This can be when holding hands, cuddling or kissing, etc, etc. Maybe you’ve gotten up to the point where your date allows you to kiss her, but maybe you don’t know how to behave in the appropriate manner to keep the fire burning…
Well, you need to be the one who isn’t afraid to let go son!!
You might have witnessed the guy, that many of us most likely have noticed at one point or another… this guy becomes super excited because he met a hot girl that he could actually kiss. But once he gets that kiss, he can’t control his overwhelming desire to kiss her more. He does so and has no idea when to quit; as a result she stops the kiss for him. Then she stops another… and an additional. Next thing you know the girl is deterred, he never gets to fool around nor a call back.
I don’t know why women respond this way, but they do and unless you learn how to act appropriately, then they will continue to lose interest.
There is a saying I like…
“Absense makes the heart grow fonder.”
With American women, this is the only way you can really win. Many women in America tend to grow up to silly stories about stalkers and such while growing up; not to forget the garbage in the movie theatres. The safest way to get a high quality, educated woman comfortable is by not showing an excessive amount of affection… ever.
I’ve found that even most European women, excluding Italy and Spain, are similar when it comes to holding off on the affection. Asian girls this works for as well.
So to get a tad bit more into detail…
If I am out on a date, I may escalate to various check-points. The first check-point would be the hand-holding; as I explained in another article about kino(KINO Article).
The second is the kiss…
If I get resistance when going for the kiss then I will work backwards to just hand-holding. I may carress her hand for a moment, while talking about a funny movie that we’ve both seen. I caress her hand until I see that she is beginning to enjoy it, but then I’ll let go when I see her breathing more deeply, etc.
So I’m initiating, but I’m not letting the escalation carry on long enough to get awkward or uncomfortable. Regardless, I am always looking to touch her to start with. I won’t do it blatantly in front of people, but I will work it in within the times that we are in more seductive locations.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with touching women… and if you do not get comfortable with it, then you are never going to get that far in seduction. You can always utilize the old, “I could not resist, you are just so hot.” This line is very helpful for easing the tension.
Now getting back to being the first to dismiss…
The bottom line is that once you get up to that point where you have made out, then step back. Analyze how she responds when you are the first to pull away after exchanging a few kisses.
She will begin to crave more… and she will like it.
So there are a couple of new things to consider when you venture out on your up in coming date. Try not to over-do it. There is nothing wrong with few passionate make-outs here and there. Just make sure that she is the one that is pushing to have them.
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-PUA Redsky
Interesting post