I realized I talk about seduction a lot, but today I thought I’d get into something related to sociology. Today I wanted to talk about building a positive, strong group dynamic. This is important because it will not just help you get more women but make you more likable over-all.
When trying to build a good group of friends for anything in life, it is important to know how to get everyone working together and not against one another. I thought I’d put together some helpful guidelines that could help those of you trying to understand what it takes to build a good team dynamic; whether it is for your business or to just get along better with people as a whole.
So here are a few ways to do just that…
1. Make sure to give props when they are due:
A group cannot flourish if the main alpha’s, or leaders, in the group have it in their mind that their ideas are the only good ideas. Many times I have been out with a beginner seducers that have done something quite clever and I can’t help but commend them for their unique sense of humor or maybe an insightful perspective.
2. Give your friends their roles in relation to what they are best at:
When you are able to organize a system of individuals that are all equally recognized for their strengths, then there will be much less competition. Members will have a better understanding of what others expect of them and it will encourage them to grow in whatever strength, or ability, that they have chosen to develop in their lives.
3. Build a frame that incorporates the use of the word “We” or “Us” instead I or me:
It’s important to use the words “We” or “Us”, because of the beneficial psychological effects it has on those involved in whatever you wish to accomplish. These effects are that it allows everyone to experience a feeling of support; without support a house will collapse. When dealing with new potential additions to your group, use words like “We believe” and “Our thoughts are” to show to those already in your group that you value them and their abilities.
4. Relay, educate and act out:
You will have many opportunities to show someone something interesting you’ve learned on your journey. It helps to take advantage of every chance you get to teach someone in your circle something new; you should do it as much as you can.
This doesn’t just build a better relationship, but you’ll build momentum and get the group working much more productively and with purpose. Getting everyone on the same page will lead to more success, more pulls and more respect from the spectators; which includes bouncers, DJ’s, promoters, club managers, etc. This means you won’t have to wait in lines and may even be able to get in to certain exclusive places without paying a cover.
5. Sometimes you’ll lose and sometimes you’ll win, but at least you tried and did it as a team:
Like I said before, recognize those which have success; however, on the flip-side, do not fault one person for any failure. This is somewhat self-explanatory, but it’s important to recognize the fact that it was the entire group’s fault and not a single individual. This will keep the dynamic positive and help create a “Brother-hood” type of frame.
Everyone feels accepted and it will keep people wanting to come back; because most likely they are treated the exact opposite for failure in the majority of other groups.
6. Have regular meet-ups:
A really useful tool for getting your team/group to feel more of an attachment towards each other is going out as a team. So having a weekly, bi-weekly meet-up will help create more of a family-like experience.
In time the dynamic will grow and everyone will enjoy helping each other out. In addition, those that are new will feel more welcome when they see that everyone is getting along well.
7. Create a fun environment where team-work is necessary:
I have always liked the idea of playing laser tag, bowling, basketball, martial-arts, or even playing paintball to build more of a bond between a group of people. This is perfect for creating a fun, indirect team-like atmosphere. If someone doesn’t have the equipment, it helps to have extra equipment available to lend them. Nevertheless, don’t be a bully to a new-comer; so if you are good at something don’t rub your wins in their face.
So that brings me to my final point…
It’s necessary to understand that team-work doesn’t build over-night and it will take dedication. If you want your team dynamic to improve, you’ll have to be patient and understand that you will lose some of your crew at times. However, as long as you are behaving appropriately and putting in the work, then over-time you’ll see fulfilling improvement.
Remember hard work and dedication are the key ingredients to any kind of success. If you aren’t seeing success, then maybe you should look into the amount of time you invest into what you are trying to accomplish. You need to make it your main priority and if it’s not, then it will directly reflect on your level of productivity.
Finally, I bring another great book for everyone, something that will really help us all. This book is called…
“What Every BODY Is Saying” by “Joe Navarro“.
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