or a lot of us, social anxiety is a big challenge, whether it is over public speaking, chit chat, eating in front of people or even using public lavatories; it can be a real thorn in the side. However, it is overcome-able and I know this because I have overcome it personally.
I’ve noticed some people, that I have worked with, who will go as far as trying to hide the fact that they have Social Anxiety while actually trying to be social by going to parties or other social gatherings. Yet regretfully, instead of being social they will find a place where they are comfortable to hide, like by the bar or in somebody’s dining room/kitchen area.
Which is ridiculous!
Social anxiety is considered a form of anxiety following, or prior, to a situation where a person will be forced to interact with other people. In short, if you have this problem you are experiencing a fear of what others will think of you. Whether it be bad or good, the ‘fear’ a person with this may be experiencing is the fear of stress brought upon them by socializing, interacting, etc.
Some of us may also fear the consequences of doing something well also. In a work environment, you may find yourself in hot water if you are to make your boss look bad because you are more skilled than them in a particular area. So to better understand what Social Anxiety is, one can state that it is literally the fear of being in the spotlight; whether you are attracting positive or negative attention.
The truth is that shyness and social anxiety are similar to one another. A shy person being at the less severe level, while a person with Social Anxiety will go to major lengths to avoid people.
Will Social Anxiety limit you in life?
Social Anxiety will deprive you of the drive you need to become better in every aspect of your life. Think about it… if you are going to be lazy when it comes to bettering your people-skills, then you will get lazy in other areas of life as well. So moral of the story… man up and embrace the challenge of getting this handled once and for all.
People with Social Anxiety may choose not to participate in a University that requires them to do socially-risky activity, such as making speeches. This person also avoids women he is attracted to because he fears rejection; does this ring a bell for some of you?
So now I’ll share with you all a few useful tips for overcoming this social dilemma below…
The first step to accomplishing anything, or overcoming anything in life in general, is to make a commitment to start. By getting a book or some kind of helpful resource on this topic, you’ll begin a path in a more productive direction.
Let’s say you are having some difficulty just going into a set and having a full-blown conversation on a whim. The idea is to start out just saying hello or asking for directions.
Once this has become comfortable enough then you can move on to trying to have a full conversation. Once you’ve felt that you are making a connection and feel confident in your efforts, you can push for more.
After having a few conversations successfully and becoming more aware of the chemistry with your target, you can now start asking for contact information. If things are going really well then don’t be afraid to suggest hanging out at that very moment.
I do this periodically and I find it helps to release pent up tension/stress. What I do is lie in my bed, on my back, and put all my focus on the area between my eyes or the unibrow region. After I’m focused, I’ll breathe in from my nose and out through my mouth with my eyes closed.
You’ll begin to feel your body relax, and if you do it long enough you might just fall asleep. I always feel much more relieved and calm after a week of doing this for 25-30 minutes a day.
Pay attention to the facts and get used to embracing your logic for inspiration.
A good example would be if you were to give a speech for school, you may think you will do poorly at first. Nevertheless, if you think about all of your prior, successful class-speeches you’ve given before, then you might not face as much anxiety.
The same idea applies to asking a girl on a date. Yes, you may get turned down, but if you’ve had success in the past, then it’s much easier to approach all available opportunities; rather than letting them pass you by.
So that’s everything I have to share today in regard to Social Anxiety. Keep in mind that if you feel you are being held back due to this issue, then it’s wise to seek help and to do so quickly. This condition is highly treatable and if left untreated, then you will most definitely be kept from reaching your full potential in life.
On a final note, here is another great book for you all; some useful information right here. This book is called…
“Thy Mystery Method” by Erik Von Markovik A.K.A. PUA Mystery.
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