o it’s about to be Christmas in a few weeks so I am in the giving spirit. Since I’m in the giving spirit I thought I would give you all a list of 5 things many of you are probably doing that make you look desperate as fuck.
So pay attention…
1. Texting long answers and texting too often:
Oh yes, the dreaded text game… I know for some of us this can be a real pain in the neck. The reason for this is there is a great deal of patience required in the courting process – well for most women.
Part of that is knowing how not to present yourself over text. When a woman texts you I know there is a significant urge to tell her everything you feel, but you have to learn to relax. The key is to just take your time. Don’t be a try-hard and just remember that the purpose of texting is just to get her out so you can eventually go home together.
If you really like her, then in time you can have more. However first you need time to get to know her. We do this not just for the sake of getting her comfortable with you, but to make sure she isn’t going to turn into an obsessive psycho when she realizes she has feelings for you later on down the road.
Honestly I have girls I’ve seen for half a year without ever getting serious. Yes I admit that in the beginning I sometimes get some pretty strong feelings, but then later on I may end up spotting some serious insecurities. When this happens I then realize maybe it’s not so wise to get involved any longer. Which is why I like to give everything time and space in the beginning. Besides you can’t rush anything you want to last forever.
2. Leaning in too much:
I understand this can be difficult… especially if you can’t hear the person, but getting the woman to lean in herself is actually a good thing. It shows that she really wants to be with you and it also gives you power over the interaction. Just don’t be a dick and try to make a smart ass comment about it after because you can quickly turn a girl off that way.
Once you get her investing then just treat her the same as you would treat anyone else that you have a conversation with. Believe it or not now that she’s invested somewhat, by coming in close to you, then she’s more inclined to give you her number and possibly even go home with you.
In essence seduction is a mind game and if you know how to play it well then you will never have any trouble getting sex with a beautiful woman. It’s all about power and control – it might not make sense to you now, but in time it will all come together. You just have to keep going out and collecting that mental data.
3. Bragging about what you’ve done or what you do:
This is a big no no, and even though most people’s parents have been preaching not to brag most of our lives, I still see guys doing this constantly when I go out. If you think all women care about is your status and how much you have in your bank account, then you’re in for a lonely journey.
Most women get over that mindset as soon as they get done with school. They see that thinking that way doesn’t bring true happiness and they “grow up”; which is exactly why you should too.
What women care about is authenticity. They want a man who is not like everyone else and that they can enjoy their time with. If you are always bragging about all the things you got or what school you went to, then all you are proving is how stuck up you are.
Even if you do manage to impress a girl with this nonsense – in the end she will leave you for someone that she actually has a real connection with. So if you are the guy obsessed with all the superfical balogna that I just mentioned, then I suggest you stop and start thinking about who you really are.
4. Offering to buy her a drink or paying for everything on dates:
One thing I’ll never do is pay the woman’s whole way and you shouldn’t either. A relationship is supposed to be a partnership and if she isn’t willing to put in her share, then she can take a hike.
Not only will you save money, but she will respect you more for making her get at least a round or 2. Don’t ever supplicate… if she isn’t willing to help out she isn’t worth your time.
5. Agreeing with everything she says:
One particular person most men don’t have respect for is a kiss-ass and women are the same way. You can’t brown-nose your way into the bed sorry. So don’t waste your time and develop a backbone.
Don’t be afraid to speak about how you truly feel but do so with tact. You can still disagree with someone without insulting them.
So that’s a few tid-bits for those of you that are still struggling with looking like a desperate little manlet. These are all pieces of information most people will learn after awhile just by going out a great deal – at least I hope.
The idea is to just behave like someone you would enjoy being around and that doesn’t necessarily mean being entertaining; it just means being relaxed. Not overcompensating or being a push-over either. Just be a man or an adult male and at the same time be yourself.
To finish off, here is my first book for anyone that hasn’t read it already; some useful information in here. The book is called…
“Street Game: Day Game Tactics“.
Just click the icon below to begin reading now…
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