PUA Tips: How to connect better with people

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W-design-1 pua picturehen you talk, listen at the full extent. The majority of us don’t.

Most of my life I never felt like I had enough in common with anyone. I was shy, I would never talk to people I didn’t know beforehand, If I did, it was usually awkward and hard for me to do. Rarely did I make friends with people that weren’t from my social circle. The majority of my friends came from either work or school; since we are forced to interact. However to actually create a relationship with random people outside of school and work was not something I really ever attempted to do.

I overcame my shyness by constantly forcing myself to push my comfort-zone, however there is one thing in particular that really helped me. I can now see what I didn’t before; I can see what will allow me to connect with everyone I want to connect with at this point in life.

Here is one thing that really opened the doors for me and has allowed me to connect with many people over the years on a new level…

Always try to understand what people really mean when they speak.

This isn’t a big huge secret. A lot of us can shake our heads and say to ourselves, “Yes I knew that.” Nevertheless, not many of us really care about what another person is saying when talking to them. Most of the time we listen just enough to inject our own opinion about whatever is going on in our own minds, but fail to really think about what the other person was trying to tell us.

I challenge you to pay attention to an interaction between a couple of people the next time you are hanging out in a public place. You may notice that most of the time we tend to consider everyone else’s point of view as a lower stand-point in many cases. The truth is many of us think we have “the right view” on things and this is common among the majority of people; hence just our nature. We want to be heard and to voice our opinions, like we all have some life-changing news that no one else has thought of yet.

Have you ever noticed how people get along better when they have similar opinions?

People actually listen better and take more notice to what is being said when opinions match. The reality is that people experience a connection easiest when they have similar views. For example, a lot of times when we’ve known someone for awhile (Friends and family) then it’s a lot easier to have meaningful conversation. One of the main reasons that many people become friends in the first is because they have a lot of similar beliefs. Your family will also have similar views; since you have probably talked with them about a lot more than anyone else, if you grew up around them. Which is exactly why people that are forced to be around each other a lot tend to find a lot more in common and, not always, but will often become good friends.

However, we are still left with the majority of the people we meet not having similar opinions or views like ours. The harsh reality of what I’ve come to experience is that most will not think the same as us and are unwilling to change their views. And many of us interpret people’s thoughts by what we hear come out of their mouths.

The reality of what we say is just a glimpse of what we really think. The things you need to pay attention to so you can read people better is not what we say, but our reasons for saying it. What motivated this person to say what they said? When we find out that motivation we can better understand who that person is and what they view as important.

We are hardly ever trying to share any kind of useful information with whoever is listening. Almost always the person speaking is speaking based on their current state of mind. The words we say are based on our emotions, our judgments, our pain and happiness. Let’s say someone you know is talking about work, this doesn’t mean they are wanting advice. What they want is to express what is on their mind and release it from their thoughts. Learn to listen to them and they will be thankful. They will appreciate that you care and after they will be much more willing to care for what you have to say.

Below are a few more tips that will help you connect even better:

Allow the speaker to be in the spotlight.

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It really doesn’t matter what kind of story the person is giving you, be the most appreciative listener and watch them begin to open up to you. Make them as comofortable as possible and let them see that you are fascinated. Allow them to share what they have to say, regardless of what you think or what you would have done in their place.

The key is to understand that people say things that they deeply value. Noticing what people value can help you relate and decide whether you like them as well. If you think they are worthwhile and living for a good cause, then you can create a positive connection. When you listen long enough, then you might even realize that you can find something in common with most people.

I don’t really pay much attention to gold, however I do have friends that do. It doesn’t really matter what you have in common; you can just state that you have a friend with similar interests and connect relatively well. There’s no need to judge and it’s best to keep your judgements to yourself; like I mentioned before. You are not relating when you force your opinions on others. Judging does nothing productive in conversation and should therefore be excluded entirely.

Just knowing what it feels like to be passionate about something is enough to relate with anyone. You really have to focus on where they are coming from though. The truth is that the majority of us are way more bent on being heard than actually hearing what others have to say. People that can get used to hearing what others have to say are never going to have any problems keeping people around them.

The Wall

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There is a little thing that keeps us from connecting and it’s a tiny barrier. This little thing is “thinking about what we want to say before listening to what is actually being said”. A lot of times we want to inject our own opinions before the other person is even finished speaking and other times we want to give feedback on what’s being said.

For the moment, disregard your own thoughts and let the speaker give their own insight. When you are letting another person talk in conversation, the idea is not to think of a come back, the idea is to try to see what the speaker is seeing. Make that one moment a moment where you are trying to understand what that person is trying to say; this isn’t rocket science. And if you still have trouble understanding, then just ask.

Connecting just takes putting your own thoughts to the side, so you can try to see what the other person is trying to explain to you.

It’s truly a rarity to come in contact with a person that is a great listener. For me, I always understood that listening had a big impact on connecting with people, but I didn’t realize how much until I decided to just focus on listening. The average person values expressing themselves more than learning to take real interest in how others choose to express themselves. The goal to get better with people is to try to understand them; where they are coming from, why they think the way they do and what they value.

You can still value other’s opinions and still value your own opinions also. However, if you want others to value those opinions, then you must show them that you can value their’s as well.

One thing that’s nice about finally connecting with someone is that when you are nice enough to lend an ear to someone’s story or experience, most people are grateful enough to listen to what you have to say after the fact. Since you allowed them to get out what they had to say, they no longer will have it in the back of their mind. On top of that, they will be much more susceptible to your influence and whatever points you have to make.

So in short, both must take the time to get to know one another, but it’s better if you listen first. The main thing keeping most people from connecting is the need to have everyone put you first. Give up that need for the initial topic of conversation and relating to others will become much easier. If we all could do this, then the world would be a much better place.

People want to be heard and they want you to understand; give them what they want. Listen the best you can every-time. Let go of what you want to say and don’t even think about what you want to say. Just take the time and listen.

When I first started to pay more attention to listening, it was amazing to see how much more influence I had on others. Now I make it my prerogative to let the other person talk before me. I don’t even think about what I want to say, until after I’ve internalized what I’m hearing from the other person.

Once you’ve overcome the need to interject your own opinions, then you cover a major hurdle. It is as if your bench press has gone up and your conversation muscle has gotten stronger. All the thoughts that you wanted to share that were worth sharing will always come back to you when the person speaking is ready to take their turn listening. You always have a chance to be understood, you just need to let go of being the first to speak.

It’s a normal human instinct to crave self-indulgence, even among the most selfless of us. We all crave approval and admiration.

At times, I find myself saying things just to draw attention. For awhile I used to say things just to shock others. I had no real point in my life other than to seek validation from others. This is something that is apparent in lots of people and it all stems from the ego. It is as if some of us crave attention for our whitty remarks, like a crack addict craves a hit from their crack pipe. Most of us have this issue. It can easily distract from actually understanding others and communicating effectively.

One of the things we need to come to accept is that to most people, our opinions are insignificant. Opinions will come into our minds and leave. They usually aren’t even that profound and most of the time they are just mirroring the current state of our emotions. Most of the time they aren’t even logical opinions; which is fine. The idea behind connecting with others, is not to focus on the words a person is saying, but to focus on the person who is saying those words. Do not value what is being said, instead value who is saying it and you will find it much easier to keep people in your life.

I have to admit, at times I do fall back into my own urges for self-indulgence, but now I am more aware of them and can quickly bounce back to listening. Ever since I’ve realized how effective that listening to others can be, my social life has improved exponentially. People in general have become exponentially more fascinating as well; all because I am much better at attracting them into my life. Now I can actually spot when the connection has been made and it is quite fulfilling to see that I now have this wonderful ability.

The best part is after I have given the speaker the attention they wanted, I am always content with the attention they then give to me. I no longer feel as though others do not take my words seriously.

I believe it’s necessary to get better at every level of conversation. Everyday you will have a challenge, it’s up to you to make the best of it.

To leave off, here is another good book for everyone; some useful information in here. This book is called…

Lead With A Story” by Paul Smith.

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PUA Tips: How I overcame Social Anxiety

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F-design PUA pictureor a lot of us, social anxiety is a big challenge, whether it is over public speaking, chit chat, eating in front of people or even using public lavatories; it can be a real thorn in the side. However, it is overcome-able and I know this because I have overcome it personally.

I’ve noticed some people, that I have worked with, who will go as far as trying to hide the fact that they have Social Anxiety while actually trying to be social by going to parties or other social gatherings. Yet regretfully, instead of being social they will find a place where they are comfortable to hide, like by the bar or in somebody’s dining room/kitchen area.

Which is ridiculous!

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Social anxiety is considered a form of anxiety following, or prior, to a situation where a person will be forced to interact with other people. In short, if you have this problem you are experiencing a fear of what others will think of you. Whether it be bad or good, the ‘fear’ a person with this may be experiencing is the fear of stress brought upon them by socializing, interacting, etc.

Some of us may also fear the consequences of doing something well also. In a work environment, you may find yourself in hot water if you are to make your boss look bad because you are more skilled than them in a particular area. So to better understand what Social Anxiety is, one can state that it is literally the fear of being in the spotlight; whether you are attracting positive or negative attention.

The truth is that shyness and social anxiety are similar to one another. A shy person being at the less severe level, while a person with Social Anxiety will go to major lengths to avoid people.

Will Social Anxiety limit you in life?


Social Anxiety will deprive you of the drive you need to become better in every aspect of your life. Think about it… if you are going to be lazy when it comes to bettering your people-skills, then you will get lazy in other areas of life as well. So moral of the story… man up and embrace the challenge of getting this handled once and for all.

People with Social Anxiety may choose not to participate in a University that requires them to do socially-risky activity, such as making speeches. This person also avoids women he is attracted to because he fears rejection; does this ring a bell for some of you?

So now I’ll share with you all a few useful tips for overcoming this social dilemma below…

1. Find a reputable resource or Social Anxiety manual

The first step to accomplishing anything, or overcoming anything in life in general, is to make a commitment to start. By getting a book or some kind of helpful resource on this topic, you’ll begin a path in a more productive direction.

2. Follow a ladder of social interaction.

Let’s say you are having some difficulty just going into a set and having a full-blown conversation on a whim. The idea is to start out just saying hello or asking for directions.

Once this has become comfortable enough then you can move on to trying to have a full conversation. Once you’ve felt that you are making a connection and feel confident in your efforts, you can push for more.

After having a few conversations successfully and becoming more aware of the chemistry with your target, you can now start asking for contact information. If things are going really well then don’t be afraid to suggest hanging out at that very moment.

3. Meditate everyday.

I do this periodically and I find it helps to release pent up tension/stress. What I do is lie in my bed, on my back, and put all my focus on the area between my eyes or the unibrow region. After I’m focused, I’ll breathe in from my nose and out through my mouth with my eyes closed.

You’ll begin to feel your body relax, and if you do it long enough you might just fall asleep. I always feel much more relieved and calm after a week of doing this for 25-30 minutes a day.

4. Be realistic and pay attention to the facts.

Pay attention to the facts and get used to embracing your logic for inspiration.

A good example would be if you were to give a speech for school, you may think you will do poorly at first. Nevertheless, if you think about all of your prior, successful class-speeches you’ve given before, then you might not face as much anxiety.

The same idea applies to asking a girl on a date. Yes, you may get turned down, but if you’ve had success in the past, then it’s much easier to approach all available opportunities; rather than letting them pass you by.

So that’s everything I have to share today in regard to Social Anxiety. Keep in mind that if you feel you are being held back due to this issue, then it’s wise to seek help and to do so quickly. This condition is highly treatable and if left untreated, then you will most definitely be kept from reaching your full potential in life.

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On a final note, here is another great book for you all; some useful information right here. This book is called…

Thy Mystery Method” by Erik Von Markovik A.K.A. PUA Mystery.

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PUA Tips: How to be a good conversationalist

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A-design-1 PUA picturere you talented with words? Do you know what makes a person that way?

Having conversation skills is literally one of the most valuable skills one can develop; whether it be for dating, business or just getting people to believe in you in general. One of the keys to being a successful business owner is knowing how to network; if you can do this effectively, then you are almost guaranteed to reach success. For dating, it makes a substantial difference and if applied right will allow you to fill your life with tons of beautiful vixens.

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Since in today’s world knowing how to talk is a given; I thought I would cover this specifically for those with questions about this particular topic.

There is much to learn on this topic, regardless, experience will teach you more than any one person can preach. Experimentation is key and I believe you should see every interaction, with someone new, as an opportunity for experimentation. Try to figure out what gets people to feel as though they can tell you anything, the goal is to find out what makes people, not just open up, but want to be around you. The idea is to get to a point where you are having long, drawn out conversations that seem as though they could go on forever.

The great thing about being an exceptional conversationalist is that everything is pretty straight-forward. Just follow the guidelines below and watch yourself begin to get the hang of it:

These guidelines are…

Being interested in what a person has to say.

Who is this in front of me?

What are they thinking?

What do they like to do in their spare time?

What is their purpose in life?

These are many of the things that come to mind when I first meet someone. It’s always intriguing to me when I find someone unique. I guess I’ve developed a genuine interest in people over the years. I personally think that anyone can develop this interest, especially once you’ve realized how much of an impact you can have on someone’s life and just from words. Honestly, what is the purpose talking to someone, if you aren’t interested in who they are anyway? Which is exactly why you should embrace your opportunities to converse with everyone that fascinates you. For me, basically 100% of the time, that would involve beautiful women.

Stay positively positive.

Keep the discussion on things that are positive and up-beat. This can be something like what you have going on in your life, whether you are about to start doing a new activity or have a vacation planned; make sure to stay away from things like problems you have with people or talking about things you don’t like. For example… instead of talking about how your boss is a self-centered prick, talk about a good movie you just saw. You can talk about things you aren’t fond of, here and there, but keep it brief and move on to something else quickly and don’t dwell on it.

Give the same respect that you expect from others.

This pretty much comes down to the ‘golden rule'; treat others the way you wish to be treated. Another thing to keep in mind is that if you are not a good friend of someone, then don’t ask personal things about them. This means no asking them how much money they make or what their parents do, etc, etc. If someone didn’t go to college or isn’t a Christian, don’t judge them for it. Don’t look down on them or try to tell them that they should be like you. Judging someone is a perfect way to get on a person’s bad side. We are all entitled to live our lives the way we want to, as long as we aren’t hurting anybody.

Refrain from arguing.

When you talk you should be voicing your opinion about something in a light manner and not shooting down those you do not agree with. You are having a friendly conversation and therefore, you must be willing to accept other’s opinions; even if they conflict with your own. The point of a conversation is not meant to always be on the same page as everyone; think of conversation as a form of venting. The reality is if everyone is forced to come to an agreement then no one will enjoy talking with you. People like to be able to voice their opinions freely and be listened to; if they feel as though you aren’t listening, then they themselves won’t want to engage in any further conversation. Learn to just let things go if you can’t come to an agreement on a subject, there is no need to become offended or try to change someone else’s opinion on a matter.

Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.

Your best asset is you… take advantage of who you are and don’t be ashamed of it. Conversation is the most boring when talking with someone who cares too much what people think of them. Prepare yourself to say what you think and reveal who you are. There is no reason you should not take pride in your own thoughts and opinions; after all, they are what shaped who you have become and who you’ll be 5 years from now.

Speak well of those not present and learn to talk in ways that please others.

When talking about someone that is not there, then make sure you don’t trash them. Praise everyone where praise is earned. If someone is talented at something, make sure you take notice of it. A compliment is always welcome, but in moderation.

Educate yourself on why someone may think differently than you and look for commonalities to help form some kind of bond. We are all different in many aspects, nevertheless, we also have many things in common. Think of differences as originality. If opinions contrast, don’t let your personal emotions escalate. Like I said before, the best ways to deter contrasting beliefs is to continue to try to find things in common. Embrace every commonality you find and use it to keep the conversation flowing.

Don’t just ask questions, but ask meaningful questions.

One of the easiest ways to break the ice is obviously questions, but to make them count, you must know what to ask about. Questions will set a foundation for what you are going to end up talking about. If you want to really connect with someone then you need to learn how to ask meaningful questions. A good set of questions might be…

“What are your passions?”

“What was your New Year’s Resolution?”

“Why did you move here?” (If not from the city)

“What were you doing earlier?”

“What are your plans for the day/night?”

At times, people may not be as open to some of the above questions; when that happens, then just stick to formalities or talk about yourself (Without boasting). When you notice the person taking interest in what you’re talking about, then you can start asking the more profound questions; like what is listed above.

So I hope I was able to bring some useful info to everyone reading this. Make sure to keep these things in mind the next time you are around some people that you may be wanting to chat up. Watch the connections unfold and a new chapter of your journey to becoming a great conversationalist will begin to emerge.

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To finish, here is another great read for everyone; some helpful info here. This book is called…

Take Me To Truth” by Nouk Sanchez

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PUA Tips: Signs you’re with a High Maintenance woman

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H-design-1 PUA pictureey everyone,

I just wanted to make something clear… I have never come across a girl that was beautiful enough to make me feel she was worth putting up with a plethora of ridiculous bullshit regularly just to be with. It’s possible some guys are into this garbage, but most certainly not anyone with any kind of self respect. Guys, you have to put your efforts into investing in a woman that treats you with respect and dignity, because women that don’t will probably never change that. If that reminds you of your relationship, then I suggest grabbing your gold fish, the Budlight she doesn’t want you sipping on and get the hell out of there.

Pay attention to the ‘Omens’ below…

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Everything you have is now their’s

You’ve been seeing each other for around half a year (Maybe not even that) and now all of a sudden everything you have is now “ours”. Next thing you know she’s painting your walls a certain color and having your dog groomed to her satisfaction.

Constant bitchy look on her face

This is something that some of us might refer to as the “I hope you aren’t going to do that”, “This will be talked about later”, “I can’t believe you’re eating that” look. Someone that has been with an overbearing, control freak probably knows this look. The reality of the situation is that no woman has the right to tell an adult male how to live his life.

She starts breaking you

If you find yourself having to say stuff regularly just to please her, then you might be already screwed mentally from this ‘unhealthy arrangement’. For example: “Yea, you were right”, “Yes, I know I shouldn’t have done it that way”, “I am very sorry”, etc, etc, etc. So if you are constantly admitting you are wrong, apologizing excessively and for dumb things, then you are clearly in a crappy relationship. No good will come from this.

She wants this, she wants that, she doesn’t know what she wants

Let’s say this woman is constantly online checking out vacation spots that she wants ‘you’ to take her to or maybe she’s messaged you a picture of the ring she wants, when she wants ‘you’ to tie the knot. If that’s going on already, then it’s going to continue and continue for as long as you are with her. It will become a materialistic relationship and the only way to make her want to stay with you, is most likely, with things you buy her or places you take her. Even after the wedding, let’s see how she overcomes children constantly crying and needing to be attended to. I don’t think it will end pretty; at least for you.

Hates competition and will do everything in her power to eliminate it

If you find her commonly lashing out at other women, server’s at restaurants, people in front of her when in line at the mall, then it is most likely not the other people’s fault; she is clearly the person with the problems. Suppose your family doesn’t want to say anything mean about her, but still can’t find anything good to say. When this happens it probably means they are disappointed in your choice. So keep this in mind if you value your happiness.

Problems allowing you to live your life or allowing you to even have a life

She despises the time you’re gone. She won’t let you go out with your friends without making a huge deal over it. You end up having to ditch your friends for her ridiculous need for constant reassurance. And don’t let it get to the point where you have to ask for permission to do anything with friends in general. She is constantly envious of anyone else involved in your life, whether it be family or friends, she always needs to know she is “number 1″.

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So there is just a few things to keep in mind. Any of this that sounds applicable to your current relationships means you should probably consider rethinking whether it’s worth the life it will be draining out of you. After all, it’s only costing you your happiness.

On a final note, here is another great book for everyone; some very useful information in this. This book is called…

The Natural” by Richard La Ruina

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PUA Tips: Behavior that will make you more attractive

Behavior that will make you more attractive:

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A-design-1 PUA picturesk yourself if you think people find you attractive…

A lot of people think attraction is about looks, but it’s not. What it’s about is harnessing attractive traits that make people mesmerized by your presence. Nevertheless, we can be superficially attracted to someone, however most of the time it’s about their level of certainty, personality and degree of passion. The reality is that being attractive is about more than just how someone looks.

To clarify…

Having attractive traits is not just something we want in a mate, we also look for certain traits in people that we obviously choose to be around. For example, we have an idea for who is ideal for friendships. Maybe even a place we like to hang out; like for coffee or fun. We may judge a place by its location or the way it looks. Discovering what people find attractive will open some major doors about understanding what motivates people in general.

So in short, if you want to figure out how to make people like you, or want to be around you and spend time with you, then you must educate yourself diligently.

The Attraction Principles

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1) Identify what’s “Boring” about yourself and eliminate it:

Whether we like it or not, most humans have short attention spans –We get bored fast and need some kind of cheap entertainment to keep us stimulated. And even if you are blessed with looks, it is not always going to get you the attention you may crave.

The kinds of things that most of us are attracted to stem from intrigue, engagement dealing with interesting people and things. Interesting enough, we tend to come across as boring when we are simply afraid to say something that we fear will make us look bad; or what we really think.

Whenever you take a guarded stand-point, you will typically fall into a bottomless pit of asking boring interview-like questions; that will quickly turn off the person you are hoping to impress. What we should be doing is sharing what we really feel, instead of worrying about getting judged so much.

2) The most favorable qualities:

What do you like in a girl?

Is it their hips?


Intelligence maybe?

According to some sources mentioned later in this article, it has to do with your willingness to open up and show who you really are. After that, your potential suitors, friends or business partners can decide if who you are is who they want to associate with.

For friends it comes down to that person’s ability to invest in whatever it is that you have to say. In the corporate world it comes down to who is willing to do business and not go against your way of thinking.

So being closed off will not get you anywhere and you must be willing to connect. You must be willing to make yourself vulnerable and reveal your true-self. Be willing to role with the punches and accept that not everyone will like you.

However, as long as you aren’t afraid to open up to people and get to know them with sincerity; then you are sure to find people that are attracted to you. And when people see that you have friends, then they will follow the trend and be more willing to join in on your party as well.

*Fun Exercise*
Next time you are out at some kind of event I want you to make it clear that you are there to meet people. Verbalize it and tell people, “I’m glad to have met you, I am very eager to make some unique connections here.” Or even, “What a great event, I am here to engage with like-minded people for my business. I even brought cards. Do you mind if I share one with you?”

The way people function is by having stuff put in their face. For relationships, you have to make it clear to women that you are interested in them and for everything else; same deal.

Clarify, clarify, clarify!

Being true and open about what you want is the key to attracting more of the people you want in your life. Beating around the bush and being shy is just going to lead to a long, hard road to loneliness.

3) First Impression is vital:

This is the truth and don’t listen to anyone that tells you otherwise. People choose what to think of you by the initial things that you say and do.

When we get rid of all the rapport and focus on the meat of attraction; it typically takes place within the first 30-45 seconds of an interaction. As much as ‘The Seduction Industry’ doesn’t like to admit it, people make their judgments for a mate, most of time, when they first meet you.

According to Helen Fisher, a Rutgers University Anthropologist that has studied many couples and the topic of attraction, we choose our mates relatively quickly. Also, our brains are well-developed for this task as well; meaning we are not wrong about our judgments the majority of the time (i.e. Think gut feelings).

In the world of platonic relationships and employment there was a study done by Nalini Ambady of Tufts University. She tested how accurate our first impressions are with teachers. She tape-recorded a group of 13 teachers while displaying those videos to random people.

She then had these people rate them. After that she compared the results to the teacher’s ending semester evaluations. Shockingly, their judgments were surprisingly accurate about who were more successful and viceversa.

Now for some useful tips on attractive body language…

4) Attractive Body Language:

Inviting body language is much more attractive than any suit, haircut or fancy car out there.

Here are some things to pay attention to the next time you are out…

Do not cross your arms:

Research has shown that we subconsciously close ourselves off ‘physically’ whenever we are feeling threatened or disturbed by someone. You don’t want to make someone that you are trying to attract think that you feel threatened by their presence. This will make them less likely to want to be around you; because no one likes to be around someone that doesn’t like them.

Hands in front of you:

Research shows seeing someone’s hands will make them more comfortable around you. So take your hands out of your pockets and don’t be afraid to show them off.

People actually tend to show they are relaxed through the physicality of their body language. Naturally, a person who is comfortable with someone will never cross their arms or put their hands in their pockets. Those behaviors are nothing more than nervous tendencies. So conquer them and you will see your social, sex and business life begin to thrive.

*Bonus Tip*
If a woman is exposing her neck, their is a high probability that she is attracted to you.

On a final note…

Think back to all the times you’ve crossed your arms or have had your hands in those pockets…

Did the interaction go well?

If it didn’t, then I challenge you to not do this the next time you are out and see what kind of impact it has on people. Also pay attention to everything else I said about making a good first impression and not being afraid to say what’s on your mind.

Remember, you are never going to meet anyone worth your while if you are afraid to put yourself out there. So put yourself on display and don’t be ashamed of what you honestly think about anything.

Lastly, I bring another superb book for you all; some very useful material. This book is called…

Take Me To Truth” by Nouk Sanchez

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PUA Tips: How to build a Strong Group Dynamic

How to build a strong group dynamic:

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ey everyone,

I realized I talk about seduction a lot, but today I thought I’d get into something related to sociology. Today I wanted to talk about building a positive, strong group dynamic. This is important because it will not just help you get more women but make you more likable over-all.

When trying to build a good group of friends for anything in life, it is important to know how to get everyone working together and not against one another. I thought I’d put together some helpful guidelines that could help those of you trying to understand what it takes to build a good team dynamic; whether it is for your business or to just get along better with people as a whole.

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So here are a few ways to do just that…

1. Make sure to give props when they are due:

A group cannot flourish if the main alpha’s, or leaders, in the group have it in their mind that their ideas are the only good ideas. Many times I have been out with a beginner seducers that have done something quite clever and I can’t help but commend them for their unique sense of humor or maybe an insightful perspective.

2. Give your friends their roles in relation to what they are best at:

When you are able to organize a system of individuals that are all equally recognized for their strengths, then there will be much less competition. Members will have a better understanding of what others expect of them and it will encourage them to grow in whatever strength, or ability, that they have chosen to develop in their lives.

3. Build a frame that incorporates the use of the word “We” or “Us” instead I or me:

It’s important to use the words “We” or “Us”, because of the beneficial psychological effects it has on those involved in whatever you wish to accomplish. These effects are that it allows everyone to experience a feeling of support; without support a house will collapse. When dealing with new potential additions to your group, use words like “We believe” and “Our thoughts are” to show to those already in your group that you value them and their abilities.

4. Relay, educate and act out:

You will have many opportunities to show someone something interesting you’ve learned on your journey. It helps to take advantage of every chance you get to teach someone in your circle something new; you should do it as much as you can.

This doesn’t just build a better relationship, but you’ll build momentum and get the group working much more productively and with purpose. Getting everyone on the same page will lead to more success, more pulls and more respect from the spectators; which includes bouncers, DJ’s, promoters, club managers, etc. This means you won’t have to wait in lines and may even be able to get in to certain exclusive places without paying a cover.

5. Sometimes you’ll lose and sometimes you’ll win, but at least you tried and did it as a team:

Like I said before, recognize those which have success; however, on the flip-side, do not fault one person for any failure. This is somewhat self-explanatory, but it’s important to recognize the fact that it was the entire group’s fault and not a single individual. This will keep the dynamic positive and help create a “Brother-hood” type of frame.

Everyone feels accepted and it will keep people wanting to come back; because most likely they are treated the exact opposite for failure in the majority of other groups.

6. Have regular meet-ups:

A really useful tool for getting your team/group to feel more of an attachment towards each other is going out as a team. So having a weekly, bi-weekly meet-up will help create more of a family-like experience.

In time the dynamic will grow and everyone will enjoy helping each other out. In addition, those that are new will feel more welcome when they see that everyone is getting along well.

7. Create a fun environment where team-work is necessary:

I have always liked the idea of playing laser tag, bowling, basketball, martial-arts, or even playing paintball to build more of a bond between a group of people. This is perfect for creating a fun, indirect team-like atmosphere. If someone doesn’t have the equipment, it helps to have extra equipment available to lend them. Nevertheless, don’t be a bully to a new-comer; so if you are good at something don’t rub your wins in their face.

So that brings me to my final point…

It’s necessary to understand that team-work doesn’t build over-night and it will take dedication. If you want your team dynamic to improve, you’ll have to be patient and understand that you will lose some of your crew at times. However, as long as you are behaving appropriately and putting in the work, then over-time you’ll see fulfilling improvement.

Remember hard work and dedication are the key ingredients to any kind of success. If you aren’t seeing success, then maybe you should look into the amount of time you invest into what you are trying to accomplish. You need to make it your main priority and if it’s not, then it will directly reflect on your level of productivity.

Finally, I bring another great book for everyone, something that will really help us all. This book is called…

What Every BODY Is Saying” by “Joe Navarro“.

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PUA News: Masculine men turn women on the most (Study)

Masculine men turn women on the most (Study):

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oday, I thought I would get into something I found to be very interesting that I discovered recently. The topic today is in regard to women’s undying lust for masculine or “manly men”. Believe it or not, there is now significant evidence that the majority of women are more sexually turned on by men and not pretty boys.

Honestly, I am not the least bit surprised, and since I’ve been doing this awhile, I’ve noticed this phenomenon way before I even saw this study (Read study HERE). Which is exactly why I still, to this day, don’t shave my chest. In fact, I actually prefer to have some stubble on my face whenever I plan to prowl the streets of New York City; on my weekends off.

The details of this study cover how common, the frequency and what kinds of experiences enable women to have the most orgasms. According to this study, women with dominant ‘alpha-males’ as partners were much more likely to have a higher number of orgasms, as opposed to the boyish, androgenous, Justin Bieber types.

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So this study was done by the University of Pennsylvania, All of the women in this study were straight or heterosexual and they were examined for the amount of orgasms they had; along with what type of facial characteristics seemed to be helping them climax with the most ease.

The elements analyzed were level of attractiveness (over-all), symmetrical features of the face, whether the men were more well-endowed than others and of course their level of dominance.

The majority of the women had better and a larger amount of orgasms when getting plowed by the most masculine, muscular and dominant men. They also indicated “more frequent and earlier-timed” orgasms when paired with dominant or muscular men. More female orgasms were also reported among women dating “masculinely attractive” (Think Hugh Jackman) men, as defined by the study.

However, when women were analyzed during the act of masturbation; they did not necessarily focus on these particular masculine traits.

They plan to look further into this study in the future for a much more diligent hypothesis. Nevertheless, the current data suggests that the female orgasm is synonymous with choosing the most favorable genetics for their offspring; relating to survival.

So in short…

The stronger you are, more pronounced jawline or symmetrical features that you have and the more dominant you behave in the bedroom are the most important aspects to focus on for a female to climax. Meaning it will potentially lead to a better sexual experience for the women that you are sleeping with.

To leave off, I bring another great book for you all, something that will be very useful. This book is called…

The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction” by “Erik Von Markovik” A.K.A. “PUA Mystery” and “Chris Odom” A.K.A. “PUA Lovedrop“.

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PUA Tips: How to tell if she is cheating (Micro-expressions)

How to know if your girlfriend is cheating on you (Micro-expressions):

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ello everyone,

Today I thought I’d cover something commonly referred to as micro-expressions.

A micro-expression is a series of facial expressions that humans make when preocuppied with certain emotions. The great thing about micro-expressions is that they are very hard to fake and can help a person figure out what others think of them; that is if you know what to look for.

According to many studies (One you can read about is HERE), there are 7 micro-expressions to look out for. These are: Disgust, anger, fear, sadness, happiness, surprised, and hatred. Something interesting about them is that they take effect rather quickly; approximately around 1/25th of a second.

So you might now be curious to know exactly how to read a micro-expression and find out how you can use it to know if your girlfriend is cheating, which is what I will get into soon enough, but first I want you to think about what you are feeling now.

Are you happy, sad, stressed out or maybe you’re worried?

Whatever emotion that you are feeling, I suggest looking into a mirror and concentrating on that emotion for a brief moment. Now look at the expressions that your face makes when focusing on that particular emotion.

The first micro-expression I will be describing is…

1) Surprised:

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There are 5 things to pay attention to when you feel surprised. Your eyebrows will become raised and slightly curve, the skin below the brow gets stretched, You get wrinkles on your forehead (Horizontally), your eyes become wide open (Exposing the white in your eyes more noticeably) and your jaw drops a bit; opening your mouth slightly.

These are involuntarily executed and we all do the same thing when we experience a feeling of surprise. It’s as though the data from our parents was upoaded into our DNA from the moment our mother’s eggs were incubated; much like a computer inherits information from a USB drive.

2) Fear:

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Again we have 5 more things to pay attention to for this emotion. When fear takes place our eyebrows raise and move closer together, the wrinkles become apparent in the center of our forehead, the upper eyelids rise and the lower eyelids tighten, the white in our eyes becomes only exposed at the top of the retna and again the mouth opens; but the lips become slightly tensed.

Someone may make these expressions when they are worried about something (Possibly even something they are hiding, when confronted about what they might be hiding). It could be money, a test, an abusive partner; a plethora of affairs. Fear is a very easy expression to spot and probably the last one that you want to trigger in a female early on. So if you see these signs, then you obviously need to change something in your current game-plan.

3) Disgust:

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Now this I think many newbies and even experienced PUA’s are familiar with. This is definitely something you will come into contact with in the city where I live; which in New York City.

When your target is experiencing this emotion she will give off signals that will make it obvious that she isn’t happy with you. First off, her upper eyelids are raised, lower lip tend to also be raised, nose is most likely wrinkled, cheeks rise and there might be some lines that become more prominent below her lower eyelids as well.

When this happens you better take cover, because you are probably on your way to experiencing some bitchiness. Which is right on track for the next emotion I am going to describe…

4) Anger:

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When your target is angry her eyebrows will become lowered and closer together, lines pointing downward will appear in-between the eyebrows, the lower eyelids become tense, her eyes will have a hard and cold stare (Possibly even bulged), her lips will become pressed tightly together, nostrils flared and the jaw/chin will stick out slightly or become more prominent.

I have experienced this quite a bit with some of my ex’s and have to say that this is ‘no-man’s land’. So if you are seeing these expressions, then I advise you to stop with whatever it is that is antagonizing her.

5) Happiness:

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This one you need to be careful with because it is sometimes possible to get fooled by someone that is pretending to be happy, when actually they are not.

When someone is happy their lips are obviously pulled back in somewhat of a smile, teeth may or may not be exposed, there will be a prominent wrinkle that runs from the side of the nose to the outer lips, cheek-bones are raised, the lower eyelids become tense and the last feature is crow’s feet on the outer portion of their eyes.

The way that you can tell someone is really happy is that their over-all face is tighter and if they aren’t happy(Or faking), then the sides of the face will appear to be looser.

6) Sadness:

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Usually if this is an issue, then I will stay far away from this female. This will just lead to her need for constant reassurance and I personally don’t have the time to baby-sit anyone’s emotions. So it’s better to identify this as soon as possible; if you want to save yourself a headache.

A woman that is sad will have eyebrows that point more upward toward the center of the forehead, the space between the upper eyelids and eyebrows is somewhat triangular in shape, the mouth is in the shape of an upside down smile, the jaw raises more vertically and the lips become puffy as though the person is about to cry.

7) Hatred:

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Hatred is probably the easiest to spot when you know what to look for and it’s not very complicated at all. When this emotion takes place the person involuntarily flexes the muscles on the side of their mouth; which causes one side of their mouth to rise more than the other. I see this a lot when I tell other dating coaches I don’t want to work with them.

So now I suggest really internalizing this information, because it will make all the difference whenever you want to know what someone really thinks about you. You can also find out what emotion the topic of conversation is triggering in your date.

And finally, you can tell your girlfriend is cheating by seeing if she has a surprised response when you accuse her of the act. Chances are her micro-expression will indicate an element of surprise if she is being loyal and if she is not, then she may appear more worried; as if she has something that she’s hiding.

There you go… You now have a new skill that you can now develop on your own and have a better understanding of whether you are really connecting with people the way that you truly intend to.

On a final note, I bring another amazing book for everyone, something that will truly benefit you all. This book is called…

What Every BODY is Saying” by “Joe Navarro

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PUA Hot Women Moments: The 4 hottest women online

The 4 hottest women online:

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o I was looking around the other day and feel as though all I see is material that talks about how to get women. However, I hardly see any articles on dating sites that are actually appreciating the women that we all strive to get.

So I thought I would take the time to show my appreciation for 4 beauties that I am personally appreciative of.

And they are…

1) Alena Shishkova:

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Alena is a Russian fashion model and although many of us probably don’t care about what she is offering upstairs, she apparently studied law and seems to have some brains.

I first saw her when I was skimming through Instagram and her beauty drew me to her profile; which I am very thankful for discovering.

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Now on to the number 2 stunner…

2) Lindsey Pelas:

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This beauty is actually one of Dan Bilzerian’s wonderful treats and Playboy playmate. She is originally from Louisiana and her last name makes me think she may have some latin heritage; which is also quite apparent in her curves.

She is not just beautiful, but very sexy in pretty much every way imagineable and if you aren’t already, then I suggest following her on Instagram.

Anyway, that’s all I got for this blonde bombsell.

On to number 3…

3) Dayami Padron:

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This exotic beauty I don’t know much about, other than she is of Cuban heritage and a fine specimen of what many of us would love to wake up to every morning.

She is a true latin Goddess and I could go on for hours about her curves, but I will just limit how I feel to a few paragraphs today. I know that almost everyone reading this would much rather ogle than read anyway.

So ogle away and let’s move on to our final treat for today…

4) Jen Selter:

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So here is a very fine woman with a body that will turn even a preacher into a lecher. She is a native of New York City (Where I live) and some of you may know her from her fitness videos for building a healthy and robust looking behind.

She is a fitness model of Israeli decent and comes from a Jewish family. She has attracted significant media attention for her buttocks; as you may have noticed.

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Now that’s basically all I have to share today and I will just mention that I did not label these women in order from least to greatest. I find them all equally beautiful and they of course have their own unique appeal.

To finish off, I bring another helpful book for you all, that will benefit your game. This book is called…

Street Game; Day Game Tactics” by Cole Montag A.K.A. PUA Redsky

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PUA News: Game of trolls (The haters of the PUA Industry)

Game of trolls (The haters of the PUA Industry):

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o I have been in the dating coach industry for around 3 years now. I started coaching in 2012. Nevertheless, I first discovered pick-up when I was 19 and I’m about to be 29 now; feel free to do the math.

In my journey I have come across an assortment of nay-sayers; which decorate the seduction community like ornaments on a Christmas tree. I haven’t disclosed any of the harassing I’ve experienced until now.

So allow me to share with you a couple of the colorful attacks that I’ve received from other coaches with megalomaniac personalities in this industry…

Megalomaniac #1:

This guy messaged me out the blue a few times and at first I ignored him, but eventually replied due to his persistent messaging.

Below is a picture of him and his harem of *pause* well, you be the judge.

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Now this guy is an interesting personality, to say the least, and many may agree that he has a completely different idea of how the world works than most. And since I am somewhat of a libertarian I commend him for his originality.

Undoubtedly, I am not a fan of his manipulative nature as you can see clearly in the message below:

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Unfortunately, he didn’t even give me a chance to respond to his insults.
Oh well, I’ll try not to lose any sleep tonight.

Megalomaniac #2:

This guy I am not sure of, he too recently just messaged me out of nowhere and very casually states how he doesn’t like my videos and will delete anymore posts I make in his Facebook group of now 290 members. In addition to his exceptionally large following(<--sarcasm), I am impressed with his passive aggressive style of insulting. Here are some pictures of him, living a very lavish and woman-less lifestyle: Pick up artist hate picture joe jericho

And the message he felt like sharing with me:

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Thankfully this guy gave me a chance to respond to him and I have to say I do appreciate it. Unfortunately, he did choose to block once he saw my final response.

Bonus! Psychotic 40 year old Virgin:

This guy came out to a meet-up I was holding awhile back and the moment I saw him I could tell that we were all in for a treat. He showed up in a grey hoody and I could’ve sworn the guy could have doubled for ‘The Hunchback of Notredame‘.

This guy was tall and above average-looking, but still lacked the social intelligence to get laid. I couldn’t approach a set or even order a drink from a female bartender without the guy coming within 4 inches of my face and asking me, “Are going to game her now, can I watch?”

I dealt with this for a good minute and a half, before I had to tell the guy to get the hell out of my personal space. It was annoying the shit out of me. Thankfully he got the hint after a good 8 of us kept our distance; which led to him finally taking off.

The next day I receive this message from him…

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As you can see ‘the force of the darkside‘ is strong these 3 Jedi and it is sad, because all they need to do is let me work with them for a few months and they would be with a beautiful woman that treats them right. But instead, they would rather dwell in their dark abyss of loneliness and point the finger at everyone else, while pretending they have nothing wrong; despite the obvious amount of evidence that what there way of thinking is wrong.

At the end of the day, it is their choice and you can’t change people if they aren’t willing to change for themselves.

So to finish off…

For any of you that are planning to get into the dating coach industry, the garbage above is just a fraction of what you should be ready for. This business is not for those that get their egos bruised easily, you have to have a thick skin and be able to withstand the hatred from all the bigotry.

But I guess any industry has its own share of haters and nobody likes competition. CEO’s get greedy, some clients are just full of hatred and you can’t keep everyone happy.

To leave off, I bring another helpful book for game. This book is called…

The Art of War” by Robert Greene.

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