PUA Tips: The craft of communication

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PUA T-design-1 pictureoday we’re going to start off with a man that sets up a table on a busy corner with a sign that says”Conversations for free”. After a minute or so a couple decides to sit down. They talked for about half an hour. They rambled on about campfire stories, menus of restaurants, good food and even dinosaurs came into the mix.

Once they left, a few other people sat down and the man spent that day speaking with random people in order to develop his own skills within the art of conversation.

Soon enough they discovered that most people are in desperate need of genuine interaction. So in short people just need some authenticity – no strings attached peer to peer support.

Even from long ago in Rome to Paris in the 19th century – conversation has always been seen as an art-form. Now mainstream society has taken to online and now we are communicating through a computer screen. Nevertheless, a computer will never replace a face-to-face interaction and no matter how much you learn online, the skills you learn from actually conversing with people will never be learned any other way.

It’s important that we have human interaction and that we do so face-to-face. Watching a person’s body language and facial expressions is necessary for bonding. We must communicate visually – only then can we ever really judge whether we want to trust someone.

Maybe you’re the more timid and introverted type. Never fear… look ahead because even you can master the art of conversation.

Starting a conversation

For me it can be tough talking to someone I don’t know. One way to become more comfortable with someone we don’t know is through small talk. Small talk is like the beginning course for a meal. When doing this be sure not to bring up anything deep or something that requires the target to strain themselves mentally. A simple story about something funny that happened to you earlier will do just fine. Once the target is more at ease – smiling and relaxed – then you can move on to more intimate topics.

If you happen to receive the pleasure of being invited to a party, I suggest going where the refreshments and appetizers are. There you can practice socializing amongst your peers. Besides, food is a great topic to start out with for initiating a good conversation.

Don’t be afraid to bring up things you like and allow others to do the same. Instead of answering with short answers, explain and finish with a question. An example could be like when someone says, “How’s it going?” Just follow up with something like, “Just got done with legs at the gym. How about you?” This way you can both share each other’s interests and increase trust.

Don’t be reluctant to give a compliment, but always follow up with a question. An example would look like, “Nice shirt – is that Armani?”

Remember a little thing called an open-ended question. This will keep the conversation from dying out and get the target speaking more than you. I’ve listed a few good questions to ask below:

“So do you have anything exciting going on outside of work?” This will most likely lead to something interesting and worthwhile to talk about.

You can even bring up someone you mutually might know: “So how did you meet (name)?”

Also a good thing to do if you can’t answer a question is to ask the target whatever they have asked you. Like if someone asks you something deep like, “Where are you going to be in 5 years?” You can jokingly remark, “I don’t know… where are you going to be in 5 years?” or “Where do you think I’ll be in 5 years? I have no idea.” This is a good way to bring some playful teasing into the conversation and lighten the mood from serious to not-so serious.

Conversation landmines

I’m sure we’ve all been talking to a girl and have suddenly seen it cave in from lack of interesting content. There is a number of things that could have caused this and I’ve listed a few below…

Staring at your phone: Looking at our phones can be construed as not having respect for someone. If you are going to do so, then be sure to alert the person you are talking with beforehand.

Questions related to personal issues: Stay away from sensitive topics or things that you would find uncomfortable. For example, I wouldn’t ask questions pertaining to politics, religion, sports or how old they are – if they look like they are at a mature age.

Stay away from negativity: Negative remarks like, “Some people’s kids.” or “What a weird outfit.” will make you look like a dick and make people uncomfortable. Also you only get one first impression, so make it a good one.

Relatable topics: Excessive nonsense about your old baseball coach or your favorite soccer player can quickly become dull. I suggest asking questions about your target and find out if you can relate to their interests. Bounce around from your own personal interests and mention a series of things you like. Now look at the target’s eyes to see if they are becoming engaged or if they are waining in interest. If they are having trouble listening, move on to something else or ask a question like, “So do you have anything exciting that has happened to you lately.”

Refrain from talking too much: Let’s say you’re at a dinner and noticing that the majority of the group is nearly done eating, while you still have much further to go – maybe you should dial it back a notch. Maybe you have a hot girl in front of you and a minute into the conversation she excuses herself. Meanwhile you are thinking back and noticing that the only thing you probably remember about her is the initial approach. At this point you should already know you are talking too much. Instead, allow her the opportunity to speak and actually take interest in finding out more about her.

How to converse with those you see regularly

When you’ve gotten to know someone pretty well, then most of the time we stop talking about interesting topics. We go to the default topics relating to work or things that you may have talked about many times before. Below are a few ways to keep the fire burning and to never let it burn out…

Listen: People that see each other a lot tend to stop listening to each other. So we end up just spitting out whatever is on our own minds. The key is to turn off your own thoughts for a moment and tune in to the other person. Just take the time to listen and you never know… your coworker, spouse, girlfriend or friend might actually have something new and intriguing to say.

Give a little: If someone asks if you had a good day and you tell them, “Good.” Then you are giving up a major advantage to build on. Instead explain at least a sentence worth, this will make conversing with you much less dull and make people enjoy talking with us much more.

Get the details: Never tell someone “you know how they feel” or “that you can relate”, because you can’t – you aren’t them. Ask for more information about the problem or subject. Keep the target talking, it will help you get to know them quicker and the more they talk, then the more comfortable they will begin to feel around you. In exchange you’ll bond better and she’ll start to feel as though she did when she first met you.

Keep things moving: Believe it or not, getting people to go to different places with you can have a huge impact on bonding. This is also why I usually like to take my dates to more than just one place when we go out. I might start out in Times Square, head over to a nice little bar that plays Frank Sinatra, then move over to a nice rooftop. For some reason bouncing around from place to place keeps the mood exciting and it’s also a lot of fun showing off all the cool places I know of.

Body language to pay attention to

The best thing about face-to-face interactions is that we can see how the person behaves and not just hear what they are saying. This is often why online dating can be a waste of time for most people.

First we need to identify signs that someone is comfortable. Below I’ve listed a few things that mean you are communicating effectively and building comfort:

-Leaning in.

-Touching – most of the time it’s touching of the arm.

-Also another sign that someone is comfortable talking with you, believe it or not, can be when people look away. A woman will break eye contact which in return will allow her to interact more care-free.

Now I’m going to list a few signs that a target is uncomfortable:

*When you see the signs below, then it’s probably a good idea to get off the topic that’s being discussed…

– A person blinking abnormally often is a sign that they are nervous.

– Tight lips or biting of lips is a sign that the person is anxious or stressed out.

– Also another pretty obvious sign that someone is uncomfortable is when they raise their shoulders close to their ears. This is somewhat of a turtle neck kind of look and usually means the person either doesn’t feel very confident or feels embarrassed.

– Another indication of discomfort is when someone is moving their feet or bouncing their knees when sitting down. However, depending on the circumstances it can also mean the person has become excited. Think about when a nerdy guy in grade school was sitting next to a girl he liked; he most likely did something similar to this. I guess you can consider it an instinctual response for celebration – much like how some of us dance when we celebrate our days off on the weekends.

To add to what was mentioned above, if the person’s feet are pointed away from you, then they aren’t completely comfortable with the conversation. Furthermore, if their feet are pointed toward you, then they are interested in what you have to say and most likely intrigued.

People also cross their legs when they are comfortable. Usually when two people are both sitting with their legs crossed, while talking, then they are most likely very comfortable with each other – this is also known as mirroring.

Becoming a better listener

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It is very uncommon that we actually focus on who we are interacting with. We’re usually thinking about what’s in front of us or what business matters we must attend to. The reality is that most of the time we are more in tune to ourselves than the actual people we are talking with.

Below I’ve listed a few points that will allow us to become better listeners:

Have intent: When conversing we need to learn to be in the moment and open to what the other person has to say. A couple of things that help are breathing deeply before talking to whomever we wish to talk to and also silencing our phones completely; so we won’t be distracted obviously.

Pay attention: Ask questions if you are not understanding exactly what is being said. Be completely honest with how you feel. Actually participate and allow yourself to become engaged in what is going on.

Be fair: Don’t talk down to people or speak as though you are on a pedestal. Don’t give unsolicited advice or advice that wasn’t asked for. The idea is to listen and not assume an authoritative role. Treat everyone engaged as though they are on the same level as you, because they are.

Don’t be afraid to be yourself: Don’t think about the correct way to answer, be genuine and behave congruently with the way you feel. Being congruent is necessary for allowing the other person to understand you better as well.

Know how to excuse yourself

So this is a pretty useful skill and can make an impact on forming solid relationships with anyone you come in contact with. So below I’ve mentioned some helpful point to pay attention to…

Have a goal: If you have a goal in mind it can make the conversation flow much better. Once you’ve accomplished this goal, then you can get it and then move on to whatever you wish to do next. This is good for building business relationships, getting a woman’s number and making connections. Let’s say your goal is to get the contact information of an attractive girl you always see on your way to work everyday. Since you know the purpose, then all you need to think about is approaching, making a connection, maybe suggesting a coffee and popping the question for her contact info. Once you’ve reached your goal, then you can make your exit.

Take advantage of being in groups: Now let’s assume you are with a couple of friends and you want to go talk to a pretty woman that you see by the bar. You can strike up a conversation with someone close by and introduce your friends. Once you see that they are getting along well and now occupied, then you can walk on over to that girl at the bar. I do this a lot, because I know that more than 2 people going up to a pretty girl can be somewhat overwhelming. Plus, like I said earlier… you only get one first impression.

Be truthful: No need to apologize for leaving or to even discuss why you are leaving. All you need to do is highlight the things you enjoyed talking about and then be on your way.

Leave firmly: It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been talking just be sure to keep your eyes locked, grab their hand and give them a firm shake (If dealing with people you don’t wish to get romantically involved with.); maybe even clasp your other hand over the arm you’re shaking. You can even tell them you enjoyed talking with them or that you always learn a lot whenever you’re around them. This kind of behavior will solidify the connection and permit satisfaction to the very end of the interaction.

As for those you wish to be romantically involved with…

Never leave without some kind of kiss, whether it’s on the cheek or the lips. If she isn’t comfortable with the lips quite yet, then move on to the cheek. It’s important that you at least go for a kiss, because it will show you aren’t afraid to go for what you want.

To finish off, here is another good book for everyone; some useful information in here. This book is called…

The Game” by Neil Strauss A.K.A PUA Style.

Just click the icon below to begin reading now.

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PUA Tips: How to tell stories

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A-design-1 PUA picture lot of us tell stories to our friends and people we work with. Sometimes we do this for their support, to give advice and sometimes just to motivate each other. This is a valuable skill, but what makes a great storyteller and what makes a great story?

We live in the age of information and no one will know about anyone that can’t tell a good story. Facts never stick in anyone’s mind unless a story is behind it. Creating a great story with some emotion behind it will be all you need to form a memory in your target audience’s minds. Those who can master the art of story-telling have a significant advantage over those that are oblivious to this skill and anyone can master this with a little bit of hard-work and dedication.

Below are a few ways to start developing this unique skill…

Think about the message:

Whenever you practice telling a story you must consider the audience and what message you are trying to send. Whatever path your story goes down should correlate with that message. If you are trying to convince a girl to go home with you, then you can tell a story about how you’ve been playing guitar for years, share that journey and then just finish off by telling her you learned a really great song – possibly something she’s heard or has mentioned before. When you’ve brought her home, you can just play her another song and tell her you thought she was talking about that song.

Share Real-Life Stories

Some of the best stories come from our own experiences. Think about what you’ve already gone through in life – I’m sure you can pick something interesting to talk about if you really think about it. Maybe you can even teach a lesson that someone has taught you through their own stories. Don’t be afraid to share a little piece of yourself, people will appreciate you for it.

Be Humble

Remember not to make yourself the coolest guy in your stories either. Don’t talk about how awesome your life is, because you are only impressing yourself. You are the one telling the story – so tell a story that you would like to hear yourself. A story includes great experiences, things you’ve learned from other people and if you are going to brag, then brag about cool people you’ve met. Don’t be afraid to bring people in the audience also – you can do this by mentioning someone in the audience that reminds you of “a great guy you went to school with”. Including the audience in a positive light can and will create a deeper bond – which will make it easier for you to influence the group.

Focus On A Challenge

When telling a good story, the easiest way to create intrigue is by introducing a challenge of some kind. Whether you are talking about a fight or just explaining what happened earlier before you met whoever you are telling the story to. It’s also a good idea to bring up a challenge when trying to motivate others – believe it or not, we like to hear that something isn’t going to be easy. This makes sense because naturally whenever something becomes easy for us, then we tend to lose interest.

Simpify The Details

You don’t have to say anything emotionally either. All you need is something to the point and that gets your message across. Remember that sometimes saying less will make the listener want to know more. Don’t get caught up in dates, times and ridiculous details as well, just focus on the interesting parts of what you are trying to say. What’s important is the delivery and how you say it and what exactly is being said. Some examples are confident tonality, focusing on why something was funny to you – think why it made you laugh. Also describing someone’s struggle to fame; like a rock-star or artist that you are inspired by. Topics like these are perfect for building familiarity or comfort.

More Practice, More Expertise

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Knowing how to tell a great story is an incredible skill and a true art that needs honing through careful observation. The only way to perfect it is through application – so take advantage of every person that gives you an opportunity to practice. Learn to tell a story that is fascinating and will stay in a listeners mind long after telling it. Spend time thinking about what parts of a story will be the most compelling; doing so will be immensely rewarding. People will want to listen to you more and more, until you will start to become overwhelmed with all the attention.

What To Focus On The Most


Think about who you’re talking to — pick something that the people you are talking to can identify with the best.
Think about the main points.
Think about what inspires you most in the story.


Never doubt yourself — remember we all have something interesting that has happened to us at some point.
Don’t make yourself the hero.
Don’t give every exact detail – time, place, date, etc. Just state what was interesting.

So I think I covered everything I wanted to discuss today. Keep these things in mind when you are out next and keep pushing your comfort zone – no excuses.

To finish off, here is another good book for everyone; some useful information in here. This book is called…

The Game” by Neil Strauss A.K.A PUA Style.

Just click the icon below to begin reading now.

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PUA Tips: Improve your social life

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H-design-1 PUA pictureave you ever wondered why it is that you are more likely to go to a restaurant that has respectful staff that make you feel welcome, as opposed to other places where staff may treat you like you are just another customer?

Did you ever notice how many people will most likely choose the group’s decision over their own?

Everything mentioned above is part of a web of inconsistencies that will probably never be thoroughly explained; but are still widely noticeable again and again.

I’ve included some tidbits that will educate you a little bit on human psychology and give you some ideas for how to behave in more socially acceptable ways. Each of these that I share will give you an edge on building a solid social life.

1. Give back what is given to you
There was some research done in the early 2000’s that showed that servers in the hospitality industry could increase the amount of money they made by being more polite. They also saw that on average a server could increase their earnings by 3-5% just by leaving the customer with a peppermint candy. It went up 15-20% when the server just briefly stopped and took the time to tell the customer that the candy was just for them.

There was also an experiment done where a man sent 600 Christmas cards to 600 different strangers. He ended up getting 200 Christmas cards in return.

Experiments like these give us wonderful insights about how to work with people. Below are a couple of those insights…

Most people feel entitled to get something from the start.

Everyone wants to feel important.

Being nice and polite always sets a better impression than any other form of behavior. When we are treated fairly and with respect we will favor a person more. When we are agressive, negative, rude or forceful, then people are less likely to vote on our behalf.

However, it’s important to be able to spot the ‘happy-medium’ that does not send the message that you are needy. There is a difference between having manners or class and being needy. If a person is too nice, then people in your social circle will simply see you as a push-over; we want to refrain from this, because it will lower your level of influence. So to keep from doing so, remember not to over extend a helping hand, simply give a person the respect you’d expect in exchange and without allowing anyone in the group to take advantage.

2. Consistant Banter
People respond better to something that has been discussed prior.

There was a study done where a non-profit was seeking volunteers for an event. The first experiment involved calling up around 100 people to gather volunteers on a whim. Only 4 agreed and followed through.

Another experiment took place where the non-profit contacted 100 people and asked them if they did happen to have an event in the future, then how many might come. 31 agreed that they might come “in the future”.

One of the best ways to connect with women more profoundly is by suggesting ideas that will include them in the future. You can do this by implementing expectations that may take place later.

Let’s say you meet a girl that is cool enough to socialize with you. If you want to see her later then ask her a question like: “Do you have any plans later?” or “Do you want to know where the best pizza is in the area?” Let’s assume she agrees, if she does then she will most likely be interested in going there after or another time with you – given you don’t screw up the vibe by overcompensating or try to act too cool, etc.

Another good way to get even further with her is by building sexual tension early on with her. You can do this by getting close to her face when talking; like an inch away. You can also make strong eye contact with her when talking or just flat-out tell her that you think she is sexy. Don’t dwell on the statement though, just go about the interaction like nothing happened. The fact that you aren’t acting hungry after mentioning this will get her thinking more about you; as a result you raise your value.

Let’s say you want her to respond more to your messages via text… what should you do?

You can raise your chances of getting a response by mentioning something you’ve talked about before; when you initially met. For example if you were laughing or talking about a funny movie. I would mention something like, “Hey (Insert name here), I am free Wednesday, it’s nice to meet someone that has good taste in film. Let me know if you’d like to do something.”

3. FITD Technique (Foot-in-the-door)
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One of the first things you’ll learn in sales is that when you ask someone to do a small favor, they are much more likely to do a bigger favor in the not-too-distant future.

In the 60’s a man named Scott Fraser studied the foot in the door technique. What happened is Scott’s team phoned a list of people that regularly do house maintenance and asked what supplies they prefer. Next, They call a few days following and asking to send a group of workers to come look at their projects. Those that responded were 150% more likely to agree with the proposal.

Lesson learned…

So in short, if you want someone to participate in something you are doing, you should start out with minor favors or questions they can relate to and build up. You’ll be surprised what all this little concept can apply to. I listed some examples below…

A – Building a network

Let’s say you have some contacts that know important people that can help you benefit in one way or another. One way is to ask them to introduce you when you find out who they know. Be subtle: Ask them to introduce you to many other’s the same way, but to others without any significance. This will make it appear as though you ask this question as though it’s your own way of being friendly and without any ulterior motives.

You can use the foot-in-the-door strategy to get that person comfortable doing favors for you as well. Nevertheless, be careful not to come across like you don’t give back in return; people are less inclined to continue helping you if you take more than you give. Remember to give as much as you take and always keep your conversation and behavior as positive as you can.

B – Female Interaction

You can even use the Foot-in-the-door technique with women. Just start small and build up – get her comfortable with your touch (Hand-holding, hugging, being close, etc.), then move in for the kiss when she’s alright with that. Regardless of if you are talking about your deepest, darkest secrets or getting initmate – you need to start little-by-little and build up.

4. Frame-control
The only real reality is the reality that we ourselves perceive.

There was research done on two different parties of people at one point. These 2 parties chose 2 different treatments for people that were infected with a disease that could potentially kill its victims.

For the first group the participants had to pick one of two treatments for the diseased victims. The first treatment was supposed to save 200 people. The second treatment had a 33% chance of saving 600 people, but a 67% chance of not saving anyone at all. Obviously the majority of the participants picked the first treatment.

For the second group there were two more treatment options. The first treatment guaranteed 400 people would die. The second treatment had a 33% chance that no one would die but a 67% chance that 600 would die. Naturally the group chose the second treatment.

It doesn’t matter who you interact with, if you know how to frame something in an attractive manner, then you can make a poison seem like an antidote.

So to make a long story short, be sure to downplay your negatives in conversation as much as you can. Remember to highlight the positives and focus mainly on those distinct positives. In otherwords, be clear on your delivery when bringing up the positives to your argument and try to avoid focusing on the negatives; if you can don’t even bring them up.

5. Averting losses
On average, people tend to focus more on the negatives opposed to the positives. In Chicago there was a study done to measure teacher performance. The study was controlled by giving the teachers bonuses at different times. The first group was only given a bonus following the test scores of their students. The second group received the bonus before the testing, but could lose it if the student’s scores were unsatisfactory. As a result the teachers that received their bonuses prior had the students with the highest test scores.

This study showed that one’s fear of loss has a stronger impact on them than the potential for gain. This can be applied to many areas of life; like relationships. Once someone has your respect, then they are more inclined to work on keeping it; as opposed to investing in someone else who couldn’t care less about them from the beginning.
An example of how someone can use this would look like…
“You’re going to miss a great experience if you don’t join where we are going next. You should go with us, it’s going to be a lot of fun.”

6. Influence and conforming:
Believe it or not, a lot of us mold our behavior to be more like others. A researcher named Solomon Asch did a study that showed that the majority of us change our behavior in a group setting to fit in and be more like others around us. What he did was have actors participate in answering questions for a test. he did so by showing cards to the participants and having them make visual judgements in a group setting along with students. The outcome was that the majority of the students agreed with the judgements the actors made based on the sheer quantity of actors with the same judgements – despite them being incorrect.

Our natural instincts want us to do what it takes to survive, which is fitting in with the pack, and over thousands of years those instincts have allowed our species to become dominant. Being capable of distinguishing the advantages of this finding can benefit very much in the art of persuasion. What I’ve come to realize is that we can take advantage of this with our own circle of friends; choose people that you know well and have a lot in common with. You can persuade others by bringing these supportive friends around and displaying that support in front of others.

When you have people that respect you and who support you around when you are in a group setting, then it can raise your value in the eyes of other people. Next time you are out with friends, I suggest talking about this and how you all can benefit. Talk and think of things you all can say when interacting with other people that will make you all look good in front of other people.

7. Conformity effect
A lot of us tend to respond based on, not just what seems logical, but also how we will appear to others. There are 3 options that most people tend to focus on that will help them decide whether or not someone is credible. I’ve listed them below…

– A person seems to be gifted or seems to have more value based on a set of skills or some trait that makes them admirable.
– A person is in need of a skill that we ourselves might possess.
– We’ll also agree with someone or go along with their answer if the answer is complex and we don’t feel the need to spend energy answering it.

Asking a leading questions can also be a good way to encourage a desired answer. An example of a leading question could be something like…

“Do you have a problem with our boss?”

Most people will not be willing to admit this, in fear of losing their job – especially if the question is being asked by a co-worker obviously.

Never be reluctant to challenge opinions. This is a great way to converse with more meaning and also raise your value in the eyes of others that are watching.

Most people aren’t bold enough to challenge others for the fear of keeping them from liking them. Thinking in this politically correct manner will hold you back from raising the respect you could be getting from others in your social circle. A minor challenge of opinions will show to others that you have leadership qualities and make you more interesting compared to those that choose to be controlled by fear of not being accepted – hence conformity.

8. The Exposure Principle
When something is constantly being thrown in your face, you begin to tolerate it. It’s like your mind adapts and decides to accept the forces it cannot change, in stead of continuing to combat them.

A researcher named Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment where he introduced Chinese writing to those that participated. Each person saw the character one to twenty five times, following this he asked them to tell him what they thought the writing meant. The higher number of times each person saw the writing, the more they began to address the more favorable qualities.

Over the the years I’ve known couples that had gotten off on the wrong foot in the past, yet as they were forced to see one another from day-to-day, they quickly became more and more fond of each other. Most people, including women, will form stronger bonds to people the more they get to know them; even if they didn’t like each other in the beginning.

I remember a lot of relationships I saw with kids in school that started out horrible, but then over-time the same people remarkably would begin to date and become infatuated with each other – that right there is the essence of the exposure principle.

So never beat yourself up over not making the perfect first impression, you can always change things over time. Just show people who you are and eventually they will begin to accept your own unique qualities. As you portray who you are, without pretending to be someone else, then others will begin to appreciate you just for that.

9. Peer Support
One thing that I find interesting is how when you have support from your friends in a public setting, most of us feel much more relaxed than when we are alone. In that case, you can be in a much more hectic atmosphere and exude a greater amount of confidence – which will make you look much better to those observing.

There was a study done with pregnant women that showed that 91 percent of women that came from an socially unsupported background would have complications with their pregnancy. On the other side of the spectrum, only 33 percent of women that had a lot of support ended up suffering from complications. Not only will support from your friends allow one to have a stronger amount of influence on others, but it will also allow one to feel a higher degree of confidence – which will lead to more success not just with people, but when facing new challenges as well.

I think this effect is similar to how mobsters gain power and influence. The more members and stronger the members, then the more intimidating and powerful the people in the group appear. Of course the added bonus of confidence resonates in those that are in the spotlight as well.

A good tip for building better bonds with people in your social circle, is showing support to people you want to like you more. This will also build more trust and you’ll gain more respect from these people in the future. When done right you’ll have a strong support group that will allow you to influence those around you – which means you’ll get women easier and also make new connections or friends along the way.

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To conclude…

This information is amazing to have if you want to meet more beautiful women or expand your social circle. Human behavior is not as complex after experimenting with it enough. We all have similar needs and desires.

With factual evidence one can see the world for how it really is. Getting familiar with how to behave in an attractive manner can be extremely advantageous when it comes to building an exceptional social life.

To leave off, here is another good book for everyone; some useful information in here. This book is called…

The Pick Up Artist: The new and improved art of seduction” by Erik Von Markovik A.K.A PUA Mystery.

Just click the icon below to begin reading now.

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PUA Tips: How to connect better with people

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W-design-1 pua picturehen you talk, listen at the full extent. The majority of us don’t.

Most of my life I never felt like I had enough in common with anyone. I was shy, I would never talk to people I didn’t know beforehand, If I did, it was usually awkward and hard for me to do. Rarely did I make friends with people that weren’t from my social circle. The majority of my friends came from either work or school; since we are forced to interact. However to actually create a relationship with random people outside of school and work was not something I really ever attempted to do.

I overcame my shyness by constantly forcing myself to push my comfort-zone, however there is one thing in particular that really helped me. I can now see what I didn’t before; I can see what will allow me to connect with everyone I want to connect with at this point in life.

Here is one thing that really opened the doors for me and has allowed me to connect with many people over the years on a new level…

Always try to understand what people really mean when they speak.

This isn’t a big huge secret. A lot of us can shake our heads and say to ourselves, “Yes I knew that.” Nevertheless, not many of us really care about what another person is saying when talking to them. Most of the time we listen just enough to inject our own opinion about whatever is going on in our own minds, but fail to really think about what the other person was trying to tell us.

I challenge you to pay attention to an interaction between a couple of people the next time you are hanging out in a public place. You may notice that most of the time we tend to consider everyone else’s point of view as a lower stand-point in many cases. The truth is many of us think we have “the right view” on things and this is common among the majority of people; hence just our nature. We want to be heard and to voice our opinions, like we all have some life-changing news that no one else has thought of yet.

Have you ever noticed how people get along better when they have similar opinions?

People actually listen better and take more notice to what is being said when opinions match. The reality is that people experience a connection easiest when they have similar views. For example, a lot of times when we’ve known someone for awhile (Friends and family) then it’s a lot easier to have meaningful conversation. One of the main reasons that many people become friends in the first is because they have a lot of similar beliefs. Your family will also have similar views; since you have probably talked with them about a lot more than anyone else, if you grew up around them. Which is exactly why people that are forced to be around each other a lot tend to find a lot more in common and, not always, but will often become good friends.

However, we are still left with the majority of the people we meet not having similar opinions or views like ours. The harsh reality of what I’ve come to experience is that most will not think the same as us and are unwilling to change their views. And many of us interpret people’s thoughts by what we hear come out of their mouths.

The reality of what we say is just a glimpse of what we really think. The things you need to pay attention to so you can read people better is not what we say, but our reasons for saying it. What motivated this person to say what they said? When we find out that motivation we can better understand who that person is and what they view as important.

We are hardly ever trying to share any kind of useful information with whoever is listening. Almost always the person speaking is speaking based on their current state of mind. The words we say are based on our emotions, our judgments, our pain and happiness. Let’s say someone you know is talking about work, this doesn’t mean they are wanting advice. What they want is to express what is on their mind and release it from their thoughts. Learn to listen to them and they will be thankful. They will appreciate that you care and after they will be much more willing to care for what you have to say.

Below are a few more tips that will help you connect even better:

Allow the speaker to be in the spotlight.

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It really doesn’t matter what kind of story the person is giving you, be the most appreciative listener and watch them begin to open up to you. Make them as comofortable as possible and let them see that you are fascinated. Allow them to share what they have to say, regardless of what you think or what you would have done in their place.

The key is to understand that people say things that they deeply value. Noticing what people value can help you relate and decide whether you like them as well. If you think they are worthwhile and living for a good cause, then you can create a positive connection. When you listen long enough, then you might even realize that you can find something in common with most people.

I don’t really pay much attention to gold, however I do have friends that do. It doesn’t really matter what you have in common; you can just state that you have a friend with similar interests and connect relatively well. There’s no need to judge and it’s best to keep your judgements to yourself; like I mentioned before. You are not relating when you force your opinions on others. Judging does nothing productive in conversation and should therefore be excluded entirely.

Just knowing what it feels like to be passionate about something is enough to relate with anyone. You really have to focus on where they are coming from though. The truth is that the majority of us are way more bent on being heard than actually hearing what others have to say. People that can get used to hearing what others have to say are never going to have any problems keeping people around them.

The Wall

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There is a little thing that keeps us from connecting and it’s a tiny barrier. This little thing is “thinking about what we want to say before listening to what is actually being said”. A lot of times we want to inject our own opinions before the other person is even finished speaking and other times we want to give feedback on what’s being said.

For the moment, disregard your own thoughts and let the speaker give their own insight. When you are letting another person talk in conversation, the idea is not to think of a come back, the idea is to try to see what the speaker is seeing. Make that one moment a moment where you are trying to understand what that person is trying to say; this isn’t rocket science. And if you still have trouble understanding, then just ask.

Connecting just takes putting your own thoughts to the side, so you can try to see what the other person is trying to explain to you.

It’s truly a rarity to come in contact with a person that is a great listener. For me, I always understood that listening had a big impact on connecting with people, but I didn’t realize how much until I decided to just focus on listening. The average person values expressing themselves more than learning to take real interest in how others choose to express themselves. The goal to get better with people is to try to understand them; where they are coming from, why they think the way they do and what they value.

You can still value other’s opinions and still value your own opinions also. However, if you want others to value those opinions, then you must show them that you can value their’s as well.

One thing that’s nice about finally connecting with someone is that when you are nice enough to lend an ear to someone’s story or experience, most people are grateful enough to listen to what you have to say after the fact. Since you allowed them to get out what they had to say, they no longer will have it in the back of their mind. On top of that, they will be much more susceptible to your influence and whatever points you have to make.

So in short, both must take the time to get to know one another, but it’s better if you listen first. The main thing keeping most people from connecting is the need to have everyone put you first. Give up that need for the initial topic of conversation and relating to others will become much easier. If we all could do this, then the world would be a much better place.

People want to be heard and they want you to understand; give them what they want. Listen the best you can every-time. Let go of what you want to say and don’t even think about what you want to say. Just take the time and listen.

When I first started to pay more attention to listening, it was amazing to see how much more influence I had on others. Now I make it my prerogative to let the other person talk before me. I don’t even think about what I want to say, until after I’ve internalized what I’m hearing from the other person.

Once you’ve overcome the need to interject your own opinions, then you cover a major hurdle. It is as if your bench press has gone up and your conversation muscle has gotten stronger. All the thoughts that you wanted to share that were worth sharing will always come back to you when the person speaking is ready to take their turn listening. You always have a chance to be understood, you just need to let go of being the first to speak.

It’s a normal human instinct to crave self-indulgence, even among the most selfless of us. We all crave approval and admiration.

At times, I find myself saying things just to draw attention. For awhile I used to say things just to shock others. I had no real point in my life other than to seek validation from others. This is something that is apparent in lots of people and it all stems from the ego. It is as if some of us crave attention for our whitty remarks, like a crack addict craves a hit from their crack pipe. Most of us have this issue. It can easily distract from actually understanding others and communicating effectively.

One of the things we need to come to accept is that to most people, our opinions are insignificant. Opinions will come into our minds and leave. They usually aren’t even that profound and most of the time they are just mirroring the current state of our emotions. Most of the time they aren’t even logical opinions; which is fine. The idea behind connecting with others, is not to focus on the words a person is saying, but to focus on the person who is saying those words. Do not value what is being said, instead value who is saying it and you will find it much easier to keep people in your life.

I have to admit, at times I do fall back into my own urges for self-indulgence, but now I am more aware of them and can quickly bounce back to listening. Ever since I’ve realized how effective that listening to others can be, my social life has improved exponentially. People in general have become exponentially more fascinating as well; all because I am much better at attracting them into my life. Now I can actually spot when the connection has been made and it is quite fulfilling to see that I now have this wonderful ability.

The best part is after I have given the speaker the attention they wanted, I am always content with the attention they then give to me. I no longer feel as though others do not take my words seriously.

I believe it’s necessary to get better at every level of conversation. Everyday you will have a challenge, it’s up to you to make the best of it.

To leave off, here is another good book for everyone; some useful information in here. This book is called…

Lead With A Story” by Paul Smith.

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PUA Tips: How I overcame Social Anxiety

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F-design PUA pictureor a lot of us, social anxiety is a big challenge, whether it is over public speaking, chit chat, eating in front of people or even using public lavatories; it can be a real thorn in the side. However, it is overcome-able and I know this because I have overcome it personally.

I’ve noticed some people, that I have worked with, who will go as far as trying to hide the fact that they have Social Anxiety while actually trying to be social by going to parties or other social gatherings. Yet regretfully, instead of being social they will find a place where they are comfortable to hide, like by the bar or in somebody’s dining room/kitchen area.

Which is ridiculous!

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Social anxiety is considered a form of anxiety following, or prior, to a situation where a person will be forced to interact with other people. In short, if you have this problem you are experiencing a fear of what others will think of you. Whether it be bad or good, the ‘fear’ a person with this may be experiencing is the fear of stress brought upon them by socializing, interacting, etc.

Some of us may also fear the consequences of doing something well also. In a work environment, you may find yourself in hot water if you are to make your boss look bad because you are more skilled than them in a particular area. So to better understand what Social Anxiety is, one can state that it is literally the fear of being in the spotlight; whether you are attracting positive or negative attention.

The truth is that shyness and social anxiety are similar to one another. A shy person being at the less severe level, while a person with Social Anxiety will go to major lengths to avoid people.

Will Social Anxiety limit you in life?


Social Anxiety will deprive you of the drive you need to become better in every aspect of your life. Think about it… if you are going to be lazy when it comes to bettering your people-skills, then you will get lazy in other areas of life as well. So moral of the story… man up and embrace the challenge of getting this handled once and for all.

People with Social Anxiety may choose not to participate in a University that requires them to do socially-risky activity, such as making speeches. This person also avoids women he is attracted to because he fears rejection; does this ring a bell for some of you?

So now I’ll share with you all a few useful tips for overcoming this social dilemma below…

1. Find a reputable resource or Social Anxiety manual

The first step to accomplishing anything, or overcoming anything in life in general, is to make a commitment to start. By getting a book or some kind of helpful resource on this topic, you’ll begin a path in a more productive direction.

2. Follow a ladder of social interaction.

Let’s say you are having some difficulty just going into a set and having a full-blown conversation on a whim. The idea is to start out just saying hello or asking for directions.

Once this has become comfortable enough then you can move on to trying to have a full conversation. Once you’ve felt that you are making a connection and feel confident in your efforts, you can push for more.

After having a few conversations successfully and becoming more aware of the chemistry with your target, you can now start asking for contact information. If things are going really well then don’t be afraid to suggest hanging out at that very moment.

3. Meditate everyday.

I do this periodically and I find it helps to release pent up tension/stress. What I do is lie in my bed, on my back, and put all my focus on the area between my eyes or the unibrow region. After I’m focused, I’ll breathe in from my nose and out through my mouth with my eyes closed.

You’ll begin to feel your body relax, and if you do it long enough you might just fall asleep. I always feel much more relieved and calm after a week of doing this for 25-30 minutes a day.

4. Be realistic and pay attention to the facts.

Pay attention to the facts and get used to embracing your logic for inspiration.

A good example would be if you were to give a speech for school, you may think you will do poorly at first. Nevertheless, if you think about all of your prior, successful class-speeches you’ve given before, then you might not face as much anxiety.

The same idea applies to asking a girl on a date. Yes, you may get turned down, but if you’ve had success in the past, then it’s much easier to approach all available opportunities; rather than letting them pass you by.

So that’s everything I have to share today in regard to Social Anxiety. Keep in mind that if you feel you are being held back due to this issue, then it’s wise to seek help and to do so quickly. This condition is highly treatable and if left untreated, then you will most definitely be kept from reaching your full potential in life.

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On a final note, here is another great book for you all; some useful information right here. This book is called…

Thy Mystery Method” by Erik Von Markovik A.K.A. PUA Mystery.

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PUA Tips: How to be a good conversationalist

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A-design-1 PUA picturere you talented with words? Do you know what makes a person that way?

Having conversation skills is literally one of the most valuable skills one can develop; whether it be for dating, business or just getting people to believe in you in general. One of the keys to being a successful business owner is knowing how to network; if you can do this effectively, then you are almost guaranteed to reach success. For dating, it makes a substantial difference and if applied right will allow you to fill your life with tons of beautiful vixens.

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Since in today’s world knowing how to talk is a given; I thought I would cover this specifically for those with questions about this particular topic.

There is much to learn on this topic, regardless, experience will teach you more than any one person can preach. Experimentation is key and I believe you should see every interaction, with someone new, as an opportunity for experimentation. Try to figure out what gets people to feel as though they can tell you anything, the goal is to find out what makes people, not just open up, but want to be around you. The idea is to get to a point where you are having long, drawn out conversations that seem as though they could go on forever.

The great thing about being an exceptional conversationalist is that everything is pretty straight-forward. Just follow the guidelines below and watch yourself begin to get the hang of it:

These guidelines are…

Being interested in what a person has to say.

Who is this in front of me?

What are they thinking?

What do they like to do in their spare time?

What is their purpose in life?

These are many of the things that come to mind when I first meet someone. It’s always intriguing to me when I find someone unique. I guess I’ve developed a genuine interest in people over the years. I personally think that anyone can develop this interest, especially once you’ve realized how much of an impact you can have on someone’s life and just from words. Honestly, what is the purpose talking to someone, if you aren’t interested in who they are anyway? Which is exactly why you should embrace your opportunities to converse with everyone that fascinates you. For me, basically 100% of the time, that would involve beautiful women.

Stay positively positive.

Keep the discussion on things that are positive and up-beat. This can be something like what you have going on in your life, whether you are about to start doing a new activity or have a vacation planned; make sure to stay away from things like problems you have with people or talking about things you don’t like. For example… instead of talking about how your boss is a self-centered prick, talk about a good movie you just saw. You can talk about things you aren’t fond of, here and there, but keep it brief and move on to something else quickly and don’t dwell on it.

Give the same respect that you expect from others.

This pretty much comes down to the ‘golden rule’; treat others the way you wish to be treated. Another thing to keep in mind is that if you are not a good friend of someone, then don’t ask personal things about them. This means no asking them how much money they make or what their parents do, etc, etc. If someone didn’t go to college or isn’t a Christian, don’t judge them for it. Don’t look down on them or try to tell them that they should be like you. Judging someone is a perfect way to get on a person’s bad side. We are all entitled to live our lives the way we want to, as long as we aren’t hurting anybody.

Refrain from arguing.

When you talk you should be voicing your opinion about something in a light manner and not shooting down those you do not agree with. You are having a friendly conversation and therefore, you must be willing to accept other’s opinions; even if they conflict with your own. The point of a conversation is not meant to always be on the same page as everyone; think of conversation as a form of venting. The reality is if everyone is forced to come to an agreement then no one will enjoy talking with you. People like to be able to voice their opinions freely and be listened to; if they feel as though you aren’t listening, then they themselves won’t want to engage in any further conversation. Learn to just let things go if you can’t come to an agreement on a subject, there is no need to become offended or try to change someone else’s opinion on a matter.

Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not.

Your best asset is you… take advantage of who you are and don’t be ashamed of it. Conversation is the most boring when talking with someone who cares too much what people think of them. Prepare yourself to say what you think and reveal who you are. There is no reason you should not take pride in your own thoughts and opinions; after all, they are what shaped who you have become and who you’ll be 5 years from now.

Speak well of those not present and learn to talk in ways that please others.

When talking about someone that is not there, then make sure you don’t trash them. Praise everyone where praise is earned. If someone is talented at something, make sure you take notice of it. A compliment is always welcome, but in moderation.

Educate yourself on why someone may think differently than you and look for commonalities to help form some kind of bond. We are all different in many aspects, nevertheless, we also have many things in common. Think of differences as originality. If opinions contrast, don’t let your personal emotions escalate. Like I said before, the best ways to deter contrasting beliefs is to continue to try to find things in common. Embrace every commonality you find and use it to keep the conversation flowing.

Don’t just ask questions, but ask meaningful questions.

One of the easiest ways to break the ice is obviously questions, but to make them count, you must know what to ask about. Questions will set a foundation for what you are going to end up talking about. If you want to really connect with someone then you need to learn how to ask meaningful questions. A good set of questions might be…

“What are your passions?”

“What was your New Year’s Resolution?”

“Why did you move here?” (If not from the city)

“What were you doing earlier?”

“What are your plans for the day/night?”

At times, people may not be as open to some of the above questions; when that happens, then just stick to formalities or talk about yourself (Without boasting). When you notice the person taking interest in what you’re talking about, then you can start asking the more profound questions; like what is listed above.

So I hope I was able to bring some useful info to everyone reading this. Make sure to keep these things in mind the next time you are around some people that you may be wanting to chat up. Watch the connections unfold and a new chapter of your journey to becoming a great conversationalist will begin to emerge.

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To finish, here is another great read for everyone; some helpful info here. This book is called…

Take Me To Truth” by Nouk Sanchez

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PUA Tips: Signs you’re with a High Maintenance woman

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H-design-1 PUA pictureey everyone,

I just wanted to make something clear… I have never come across a girl that was beautiful enough to make me feel she was worth putting up with a plethora of ridiculous bullshit regularly just to be with. It’s possible some guys are into this garbage, but most certainly not anyone with any kind of self respect. Guys, you have to put your efforts into investing in a woman that treats you with respect and dignity, because women that don’t will probably never change that. If that reminds you of your relationship, then I suggest grabbing your gold fish, the Budlight she doesn’t want you sipping on and get the hell out of there.

Pay attention to the ‘Omens’ below…

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Everything you have is now their’s

You’ve been seeing each other for around half a year (Maybe not even that) and now all of a sudden everything you have is now “ours”. Next thing you know she’s painting your walls a certain color and having your dog groomed to her satisfaction.

Constant bitchy look on her face

This is something that some of us might refer to as the “I hope you aren’t going to do that”, “This will be talked about later”, “I can’t believe you’re eating that” look. Someone that has been with an overbearing, control freak probably knows this look. The reality of the situation is that no woman has the right to tell an adult male how to live his life.

She starts breaking you

If you find yourself having to say stuff regularly just to please her, then you might be already screwed mentally from this ‘unhealthy arrangement’. For example: “Yea, you were right”, “Yes, I know I shouldn’t have done it that way”, “I am very sorry”, etc, etc, etc. So if you are constantly admitting you are wrong, apologizing excessively and for dumb things, then you are clearly in a crappy relationship. No good will come from this.

She wants this, she wants that, she doesn’t know what she wants

Let’s say this woman is constantly online checking out vacation spots that she wants ‘you’ to take her to or maybe she’s messaged you a picture of the ring she wants, when she wants ‘you’ to tie the knot. If that’s going on already, then it’s going to continue and continue for as long as you are with her. It will become a materialistic relationship and the only way to make her want to stay with you, is most likely, with things you buy her or places you take her. Even after the wedding, let’s see how she overcomes children constantly crying and needing to be attended to. I don’t think it will end pretty; at least for you.

Hates competition and will do everything in her power to eliminate it

If you find her commonly lashing out at other women, server’s at restaurants, people in front of her when in line at the mall, then it is most likely not the other people’s fault; she is clearly the person with the problems. Suppose your family doesn’t want to say anything mean about her, but still can’t find anything good to say. When this happens it probably means they are disappointed in your choice. So keep this in mind if you value your happiness.

Problems allowing you to live your life or allowing you to even have a life

She despises the time you’re gone. She won’t let you go out with your friends without making a huge deal over it. You end up having to ditch your friends for her ridiculous need for constant reassurance. And don’t let it get to the point where you have to ask for permission to do anything with friends in general. She is constantly envious of anyone else involved in your life, whether it be family or friends, she always needs to know she is “number 1”.

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So there is just a few things to keep in mind. Any of this that sounds applicable to your current relationships means you should probably consider rethinking whether it’s worth the life it will be draining out of you. After all, it’s only costing you your happiness.

On a final note, here is another great book for everyone; some very useful information in this. This book is called…

The Natural” by Richard La Ruina

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PUA Tips: Behavior that will make you more attractive

Behavior that will make you more attractive:

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A-design-1 PUA picturesk yourself if you think people find you attractive…

A lot of people think attraction is about looks, but it’s not. What it’s about is harnessing attractive traits that make people mesmerized by your presence. Nevertheless, we can be superficially attracted to someone, however most of the time it’s about their level of certainty, personality and degree of passion. The reality is that being attractive is about more than just how someone looks.

To clarify…

Having attractive traits is not just something we want in a mate, we also look for certain traits in people that we obviously choose to be around. For example, we have an idea for who is ideal for friendships. Maybe even a place we like to hang out; like for coffee or fun. We may judge a place by its location or the way it looks. Discovering what people find attractive will open some major doors about understanding what motivates people in general.

So in short, if you want to figure out how to make people like you, or want to be around you and spend time with you, then you must educate yourself diligently.

The Attraction Principles

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1) Identify what’s “Boring” about yourself and eliminate it:

Whether we like it or not, most humans have short attention spans –We get bored fast and need some kind of cheap entertainment to keep us stimulated. And even if you are blessed with looks, it is not always going to get you the attention you may crave.

The kinds of things that most of us are attracted to stem from intrigue, engagement dealing with interesting people and things. Interesting enough, we tend to come across as boring when we are simply afraid to say something that we fear will make us look bad; or what we really think.

Whenever you take a guarded stand-point, you will typically fall into a bottomless pit of asking boring interview-like questions; that will quickly turn off the person you are hoping to impress. What we should be doing is sharing what we really feel, instead of worrying about getting judged so much.

2) The most favorable qualities:

What do you like in a girl?

Is it their hips?


Intelligence maybe?

According to some sources mentioned later in this article, it has to do with your willingness to open up and show who you really are. After that, your potential suitors, friends or business partners can decide if who you are is who they want to associate with.

For friends it comes down to that person’s ability to invest in whatever it is that you have to say. In the corporate world it comes down to who is willing to do business and not go against your way of thinking.

So being closed off will not get you anywhere and you must be willing to connect. You must be willing to make yourself vulnerable and reveal your true-self. Be willing to role with the punches and accept that not everyone will like you.

However, as long as you aren’t afraid to open up to people and get to know them with sincerity; then you are sure to find people that are attracted to you. And when people see that you have friends, then they will follow the trend and be more willing to join in on your party as well.

*Fun Exercise*
Next time you are out at some kind of event I want you to make it clear that you are there to meet people. Verbalize it and tell people, “I’m glad to have met you, I am very eager to make some unique connections here.” Or even, “What a great event, I am here to engage with like-minded people for my business. I even brought cards. Do you mind if I share one with you?”

The way people function is by having stuff put in their face. For relationships, you have to make it clear to women that you are interested in them and for everything else; same deal.

Clarify, clarify, clarify!

Being true and open about what you want is the key to attracting more of the people you want in your life. Beating around the bush and being shy is just going to lead to a long, hard road to loneliness.

3) First Impression is vital:

This is the truth and don’t listen to anyone that tells you otherwise. People choose what to think of you by the initial things that you say and do.

When we get rid of all the rapport and focus on the meat of attraction; it typically takes place within the first 30-45 seconds of an interaction. As much as ‘The Seduction Industry’ doesn’t like to admit it, people make their judgments for a mate, most of time, when they first meet you.

According to Helen Fisher, a Rutgers University Anthropologist that has studied many couples and the topic of attraction, we choose our mates relatively quickly. Also, our brains are well-developed for this task as well; meaning we are not wrong about our judgments the majority of the time (i.e. Think gut feelings).

In the world of platonic relationships and employment there was a study done by Nalini Ambady of Tufts University. She tested how accurate our first impressions are with teachers. She tape-recorded a group of 13 teachers while displaying those videos to random people.

She then had these people rate them. After that she compared the results to the teacher’s ending semester evaluations. Shockingly, their judgments were surprisingly accurate about who were more successful and viceversa.

Now for some useful tips on attractive body language…

4) Attractive Body Language:

Inviting body language is much more attractive than any suit, haircut or fancy car out there.

Here are some things to pay attention to the next time you are out…

Do not cross your arms:

Research has shown that we subconsciously close ourselves off ‘physically’ whenever we are feeling threatened or disturbed by someone. You don’t want to make someone that you are trying to attract think that you feel threatened by their presence. This will make them less likely to want to be around you; because no one likes to be around someone that doesn’t like them.

Hands in front of you:

Research shows seeing someone’s hands will make them more comfortable around you. So take your hands out of your pockets and don’t be afraid to show them off.

People actually tend to show they are relaxed through the physicality of their body language. Naturally, a person who is comfortable with someone will never cross their arms or put their hands in their pockets. Those behaviors are nothing more than nervous tendencies. So conquer them and you will see your social, sex and business life begin to thrive.

*Bonus Tip*
If a woman is exposing her neck, their is a high probability that she is attracted to you.

On a final note…

Think back to all the times you’ve crossed your arms or have had your hands in those pockets…

Did the interaction go well?

If it didn’t, then I challenge you to not do this the next time you are out and see what kind of impact it has on people. Also pay attention to everything else I said about making a good first impression and not being afraid to say what’s on your mind.

Remember, you are never going to meet anyone worth your while if you are afraid to put yourself out there. So put yourself on display and don’t be ashamed of what you honestly think about anything.

Lastly, I bring another superb book for you all; some very useful material. This book is called…

Take Me To Truth” by Nouk Sanchez

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PUA Tips: How to build a Strong Group Dynamic

How to build a strong group dynamic:

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ey everyone,

I realized I talk about seduction a lot, but today I thought I’d get into something related to sociology. Today I wanted to talk about building a positive, strong group dynamic. This is important because it will not just help you get more women but make you more likable over-all.

When trying to build a good group of friends for anything in life, it is important to know how to get everyone working together and not against one another. I thought I’d put together some helpful guidelines that could help those of you trying to understand what it takes to build a good team dynamic; whether it is for your business or to just get along better with people as a whole.

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So here are a few ways to do just that…

1. Make sure to give props when they are due:

A group cannot flourish if the main alpha’s, or leaders, in the group have it in their mind that their ideas are the only good ideas. Many times I have been out with a beginner seducers that have done something quite clever and I can’t help but commend them for their unique sense of humor or maybe an insightful perspective.

2. Give your friends their roles in relation to what they are best at:

When you are able to organize a system of individuals that are all equally recognized for their strengths, then there will be much less competition. Members will have a better understanding of what others expect of them and it will encourage them to grow in whatever strength, or ability, that they have chosen to develop in their lives.

3. Build a frame that incorporates the use of the word “We” or “Us” instead I or me:

It’s important to use the words “We” or “Us”, because of the beneficial psychological effects it has on those involved in whatever you wish to accomplish. These effects are that it allows everyone to experience a feeling of support; without support a house will collapse. When dealing with new potential additions to your group, use words like “We believe” and “Our thoughts are” to show to those already in your group that you value them and their abilities.

4. Relay, educate and act out:

You will have many opportunities to show someone something interesting you’ve learned on your journey. It helps to take advantage of every chance you get to teach someone in your circle something new; you should do it as much as you can.

This doesn’t just build a better relationship, but you’ll build momentum and get the group working much more productively and with purpose. Getting everyone on the same page will lead to more success, more pulls and more respect from the spectators; which includes bouncers, DJ’s, promoters, club managers, etc. This means you won’t have to wait in lines and may even be able to get in to certain exclusive places without paying a cover.

5. Sometimes you’ll lose and sometimes you’ll win, but at least you tried and did it as a team:

Like I said before, recognize those which have success; however, on the flip-side, do not fault one person for any failure. This is somewhat self-explanatory, but it’s important to recognize the fact that it was the entire group’s fault and not a single individual. This will keep the dynamic positive and help create a “Brother-hood” type of frame.

Everyone feels accepted and it will keep people wanting to come back; because most likely they are treated the exact opposite for failure in the majority of other groups.

6. Have regular meet-ups:

A really useful tool for getting your team/group to feel more of an attachment towards each other is going out as a team. So having a weekly, bi-weekly meet-up will help create more of a family-like experience.

In time the dynamic will grow and everyone will enjoy helping each other out. In addition, those that are new will feel more welcome when they see that everyone is getting along well.

7. Create a fun environment where team-work is necessary:

I have always liked the idea of playing laser tag, bowling, basketball, martial-arts, or even playing paintball to build more of a bond between a group of people. This is perfect for creating a fun, indirect team-like atmosphere. If someone doesn’t have the equipment, it helps to have extra equipment available to lend them. Nevertheless, don’t be a bully to a new-comer; so if you are good at something don’t rub your wins in their face.

So that brings me to my final point…

It’s necessary to understand that team-work doesn’t build over-night and it will take dedication. If you want your team dynamic to improve, you’ll have to be patient and understand that you will lose some of your crew at times. However, as long as you are behaving appropriately and putting in the work, then over-time you’ll see fulfilling improvement.

Remember hard work and dedication are the key ingredients to any kind of success. If you aren’t seeing success, then maybe you should look into the amount of time you invest into what you are trying to accomplish. You need to make it your main priority and if it’s not, then it will directly reflect on your level of productivity.

Finally, I bring another great book for everyone, something that will really help us all. This book is called…

What Every BODY Is Saying” by “Joe Navarro“.

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PUA News: Masculine men turn women on the most (Study)

Masculine men turn women on the most (Study):

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oday, I thought I would get into something I found to be very interesting that I discovered recently. The topic today is in regard to women’s undying lust for masculine or “manly men”. Believe it or not, there is now significant evidence that the majority of women are more sexually turned on by men and not pretty boys.

Honestly, I am not the least bit surprised, and since I’ve been doing this awhile, I’ve noticed this phenomenon way before I even saw this study (Read study HERE). Which is exactly why I still, to this day, don’t shave my chest. In fact, I actually prefer to have some stubble on my face whenever I plan to prowl the streets of New York City; on my weekends off.

The details of this study cover how common, the frequency and what kinds of experiences enable women to have the most orgasms. According to this study, women with dominant ‘alpha-males’ as partners were much more likely to have a higher number of orgasms, as opposed to the boyish, androgenous, Justin Bieber types.

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So this study was done by the University of Pennsylvania, All of the women in this study were straight or heterosexual and they were examined for the amount of orgasms they had; along with what type of facial characteristics seemed to be helping them climax with the most ease.

The elements analyzed were level of attractiveness (over-all), symmetrical features of the face, whether the men were more well-endowed than others and of course their level of dominance.

The majority of the women had better and a larger amount of orgasms when getting plowed by the most masculine, muscular and dominant men. They also indicated “more frequent and earlier-timed” orgasms when paired with dominant or muscular men. More female orgasms were also reported among women dating “masculinely attractive” (Think Hugh Jackman) men, as defined by the study.

However, when women were analyzed during the act of masturbation; they did not necessarily focus on these particular masculine traits.

They plan to look further into this study in the future for a much more diligent hypothesis. Nevertheless, the current data suggests that the female orgasm is synonymous with choosing the most favorable genetics for their offspring; relating to survival.

So in short…

The stronger you are, more pronounced jawline or symmetrical features that you have and the more dominant you behave in the bedroom are the most important aspects to focus on for a female to climax. Meaning it will potentially lead to a better sexual experience for the women that you are sleeping with.

To leave off, I bring another great book for you all, something that will be very useful. This book is called…

The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction” by “Erik Von Markovik” A.K.A. “PUA Mystery” and “Chris Odom” A.K.A. “PUA Lovedrop“.

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